Posts Tagged ‘sadness’

Dealing with grief ~ a good way to remember those we love

Thursday, December 18th, 2008

Today is the 2nd anniversary of my mothers passing and who knows what has prompted me to write this, other than to pass on some thoughts. (or maybe just some personal ramblings)

There’s a line in a song

‘ you left me here, to remind me of you’ and that to me is a comfort

~ as long as I am here, so will she.

and hopefully I can display those wonderful qualities she taught me by the way she was and the way she still is within me.

We don’t have to be sad, angry or alone when we remember those who have left us ~ I’m not ~ I miss her and speak to her most days and listen. Not just with my ears but with an awareness and I seem to understand.

But how can you remember in a way that makes you feel ok?

This is what I do.

I think of a good time(s) with her and see it as if I’m looking through my own eyes.

I’m there again,seeing what I saw, hearing what I heard and I feel the good feelings I had and every good memory is the same way. I make it that way because that’s how I want it to be.

If any memory isn’t of a good time, I see it differently. I see myself in the memory, (as if it’s a movie with me in it) over there and I make it smaller and darker, I make it still and move it away from me ~ any not so good feeling just diminish

This is not the only way but a sure way to remember what you want, how you want to and it’s good to remember because……………..

‘ you left me here, to remind me of you’

Enjoy your every heart beat

Paul

Dealing with being (made) redundant ~Redundancy

Monday, December 8th, 2008

If you have never been there, being made redundant, it’s very difficult to imagine how it feels. The very term Redundant has deep emotional meaning to those who it affects.

The dictionary definintion “1. superfluous 2. no longer needed (at work)”

For some it can be taken as an identity issue ~ I AM redundant, I AM no longer needed.

And all of this can raise what we would term ‘negative emotions’ such as anger, sadness, guilt and for some the feeling of grief as real as losing someone.

BUT……..

This does not have to be this way … Oh No! (nearly swore there)

We can change those feelings into what we want. To replace them with expectation, opportunity, relief, passion and even gratitude.

The past is exactly what it is THE PAST, it’s gone and the great thing about the future is that it hasn’t arrived so we can make it the way we want to experience the now.

How?

By using the one thing that’s more powerful than anything else in the world……Our Mind.

When we use our mind in such a way we can feel the way we want to feel, see what we want to see and attract what we want in our lives.

Sounds too easy?

That’s because you haven’t experienced it

With Hypnoisis, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Time Line Therapy plus a whole lot of other things we have learnt and developed we can make those changes. All you have to do is want to do it now.

Remember what ever thought you’re thinking~ You’re more than that and more than that too!

At the moment I am in the middle for creating an audio book for dealing with loss and in that I guide my listener ( there must be at least one) on ways to overcome loss, grief of any kind easily and quickly based on my work with a friend of mine. I’ll post a couple of simple things they did real soon

You’re more than that

Paul