Posts Tagged ‘loneliness’

Loneliness advice ~ hypnotherapy in Cambridge

Tuesday, April 12th, 2011

Being alone for some people can be just what they want. A time for thinking, working things out in their heads ~ finding a little space in our busy lives.

For others being alone can be isolating to the extreme and create deep feelings of loneliness.

If you have ever experienced this you will know that feeling, which is different for each one of us. For some it may be an empty feeling, others a feeling of loss and helplessness.

So for those who want that space and can’t find it what can you do?

Well one thing is to commit to yourself in advance. Commit to a time (and a place) and keep in sacrosanct. Tell others who may want your time what you are doing so they can respect your time and give you the space you want.

Then go do it

and you may wish to record your thoughts in a journal especially how good it is to have this space and time with yourself. You are speaking to your best friend, your unconscious mind, this way and therefore the next time you do this the experience will get better and better.

But what about those of us who feel alone now?

What can we do?

Well, there are many things you can do and the information’s is all around, in libraries, newspapers or the internet to find activities, groups or relationships. I know that’s easier said than done if our loneliness is connected to grief, sadness, low self esteem or limiting beliefs we have about ourselves.

The thing is it doesn’t have to be this way (the title of my book about grief) because there is plenty of help at hand

such as:

  • Yes of course we’re here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy and can help you find the real you, the you with all the resources and confidence to create the life what you choose.
  • read empowering autobiographies ~ there’s plenty from Victor Frankl to those of ‘Dragons Den’ and plenty in between.
  • Go on a couple of seminars ~ Joseph’s ‘Reclaim your Destiny’ and ‘Empowerment Live’ to name but two
  • Do a mind map of all the things that interested you as a child, things that excited you and when you have filled a whole page ask yourself the question ” where can I find these feelings or something similar now?”
  • Read “Feel the Fear and do it anyway”
  • go to a book shop and look at all the self help books available and pick one that feels right. Don’t just Read it ~ READ IT and DO WHAT IT SUGGESTS!

the list goes on only your imagination is your boundary and that’s infinite

If you do want one to one help get in contact with us and arrange a complementary consultation via email enquiries@cambridgehypnotherapy.co.uk or better still call us on 01223 720 120

Choose to take action now

and you may like these words

Never alone, never bymyself ~  ALWAYS WITH MYSELF

Paul

 

 

Resolving grief (hypnotherapy in Cambridge)

Monday, March 7th, 2011
 

 How long do we have to, need to grieve?

Some time ago I wrote about remembering in a different way which in no small way was brought about by my writing my own book about overcoming grief and a personal journey in resolving and moving on from grief.

You see we tend to immediately think as grief being caused by the loss of a loved one and so it is. The thing is there are so many more things that happen to us that cause us to grieve and create that hollow feeling inside. These can come from a myriad of losses such as:

  • the loss of a job
  • retirement and losing the feeling of being useful
  • someone leaving us but still alive
  • losing our home
  • losing a business we created
  • etc. etc. the list goes on.

There’s also the beliefs we have of how long should we grieve. Is it being disrespectful to only grieve for a short time and what will others think of us. All these factors create negative emotions within us, over and above that real grief feeling.

So with all that going on inside us it’s no wonder we suffer and usually in that isolated feeling of loneliness.

So that’s why I wrote my little piece following the progress of my ‘best friend’ until someone was brave enough to challenge me.

You tell the story of a “friend”. It is your own story, isn’t it? At least, it seemed to me to be your own story. If so, I wonder, if you would consider to tell your story using “I” ? Don’t feel embarrassed when you tell your own story. This is why books are read. Authors need to be shameless and find the words for what others can’t say.

and so I have re-written my book, my Story and no hiding behind the facade of my friend. I have told like it was, what I did to change and how it felt and how it feels to be free of all those horrible feelings.

Added to this I have included hypnosis tracks to download that take you through some of the exercises I describe in this book to compliment and speed up the process of letting go of grief and all the other emotions that are attached.

Track 1 Mind Mapping,

Track 2 Accessing your unique Qualities and finding your Passion

Track 3 Releasing and Moving On

My final piece is to narrate this to audio to make it easier for those who like to listen and hear which will happen sometime soon.

At the moment it’s called “IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY

It’s not meant to be instead of getting help from people like us at Cambridge Hypnotherapy and is intended to support, encourage and teach ways of finding our selves again.