Posts Tagged ‘fear’

Getting positive results with (Cambridge) Hypnotherapy

Saturday, February 14th, 2015

Little steps to a full life of achievement

We’ve noticed lately that so many people when trying to either reach a goal or make changes in their life, with the best of intentions, go about it in a way that almost always ends up in failure!

What a great shame when we see what we want in life, read about it and dream of having it only to be another “I wish” or even worse “If only I’d persisted a little more”

There’s a sure fire way to stop this happening and it’s the same process we teach my clients here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy when they leave to really test our work together.

Before we get to this small but powerful and successful way let’s just take a moment to set the scene for both scenarios.

Achieving your goals ~ We are told in many books and such things as the Law of Attraction etc. to set our goals big and I mean BIG! And I agree whole heartily in this too. We live in our ‘adult Heads’ all day and are prepared to settle for something less than we deserve.

However, if we were to adopt a child’s imagination where anything and everything is possible we dream both Big and also with total freedom and acceptance -That’s the real magic of a dream!! When we do this we can literally feel what it will be like to achieve the dream that’s now a goal.

We can then, if we know the steps, can now work backwards, That’s right backwards, and work out what needs to happen just before achieving our goal and then the step before that and then the step before that and then….. well you get the picture.

But if we don’t know the steps does that mean the goal is unachievable? ~ absolutely

~ NOT!

But so many think so, which means they don’t even begin or think of the largest first step and get scared or have a feeling of failure and give up, re-enforcing their old negative beliefs around failure and not being good enough and any other number of limiting negative beliefs you can think of now.

Testing our change work ~ We’ve noticed and been told of great change work being done in the office but in testing in the real world the client either picked a test way too big for a first test or got so anxious of the same sort of extreme thing to do they just gave up and again reinforced their previous old belief that was so nearly a thing of the past and just needed a gentle push away.

The PROCESS ~

In the paragraph above a mentioned ‘just a gentle push away’ and that’s the essence of the process. Being GENTLE with ourselves.

In both achieving our goals, which we now will call outcomes, and ratifying consciously the great changes you made in a therapy session the process is exactly the same and it is sooooooooo simple!!

In imagining the biggest outcome we desire we get to know what that will feel like when we get it – so simply hold that feeling.

Following our session my clients know what the feeling is they will have to succeed being their true selves so they are simple asked to remember and hold that feeling.

Then………

As you think of what to do, either towards your outcome or test of the change work, you simply hold that feeling and think or ask yourself for the smallest step towards the outcome you can make and still have this feeling and then just do it.

If you think of a step and that feeling is less intense or disappears it just means the step is too big, that’s all! So simply return to that feeling you will feel and think or ask for a smaller step that still retains that feeling for you and do that instead.

You will notice at first the steps will be minute and that’s absolutely correct but the thing is you will soon be leaping forward and always with that feeling which will lead you to your outcome and more.

As Neville Goddard so wisely wrote many years before

“Assume the wish fulfilled and act upon it”

If you want to know more call us on 01223 720 120

or email: enquiries@cambridgehypnotherapy.co.uk

 

Hypnosis for fear of flying – Cambridge Hypnotherapy for phobias

Monday, October 14th, 2013

Recently I read an article in the national newspapers highlighting a story about a young boy of 12 years old who had developed a phobia of flying and now been stranded in the Middle East for more than one year. Eventually, with the aid of Hypnotherapy, he managed to overcome his fear and fly back with his Father to meet up with his Mother and Sister who had already returned to the UK.

Fear of flying is one of the more common phobias that we work with here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, however we have worked with pretty much any phobia that you can think of including fear of spiders, fear of heights, fear of needles, fear of dogs, fear of driving and even the fear of shirt buttons among many many more.

The Father in this particular case thought that his Sons phobia had been bought on by an ear infection that bought with it terrible pain and discomfort, and this type of situation is very common. Quite often the phobia is not actually caused by anything bad happening with that particular thing, such as flying issues, but more so by something else which makes it simply a horrible experience, such as the ear infection. The next time that individual gets ready to do that thing again, their unconscious mind remembers what happened last time and how emotionally unpleasant it was, thus creating so much fear that they simply don’t go ahead with doing it! If you don’t do it, it can’t be horrible, right?…. WRONG!!!! By not doing what we want to enjoy doing, it feels pretty horrible in itself!

So how long does it take to let go of a phobia? Well certainly not 12 months! Once someone has decided that the time is right t0 let go of it, it takes no more than 3 sessions. Many of our clients actually achieve their results in less than this!

If you have a fear or phobia that you feel has been affecting your life and would like to find out just how easy it is to let go of your phobia with Cambridge Hypnotherapy, you can contact us here, or call us on 01223 720 120 and we will be more than happy to discuss it with you. You will also receive 2 free downloads, and are welcome to come and visit us for a free initial consultation where you can find out more.

Speak soon!

Luke

Amazing results ~ Hypnotherapy for young adults ~ the real Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

Something special happening at Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Lately I have been overwhelmed, in a good way, in having the opportunity to work with young people, young adults that is. With that I mean 19 – 21 year olds, wanting to get theirself together and doing something about it. It seems to me that it must take a lot of courage to get in touch with a Hypnotherapist, someone that does an ‘ism ~ Hypnotism and then be prepared to do whatever it takes to be the way they want to be!

It’s been really encouraging to watch these young people make great changes in their lives and take responsibility for it themselves, no blaming others or circumstances, and doing things for themselves.

You see, we all see a lot of people in the world blaming their situation on anything or everything but themselves ~ The economic situation, the government, the weather, other people, their bosses, the anything you can think of except themselves. It’s simply the law of cause and effect and if you live on the effect side of life you have and can find any amount of reasons why you can’t do or have something or in other words ~ Excuses, because that’s what they are.

When you live on the cause side of life and take full responsibility for you life you can do anything and change things the way you want them to be, simply because you can!!!

That’s the great thing about watching these young people have the courage and conviction to want to be the best they can be and settle for nothing less. They just didn’t realise they had all they need inside them and just needed our special processes to guide them to access those resources and make those changes. And because they were prepared to do whatever it takes it meant they were able to make the changes they wanted quickly and easily ~ mostly within one or two sessions. The funny thing was, because it was obvious to us that they couldn’t afford to pay our full price, we had to offer them concessionary rates. They didn’t ask for them and didn’t know about them until it came for payment of the session which made it even more rewarding giving them.

Here’s what one sent to us..

You helped  me out in a way that’s changed my life. I can’t begin to thank him enough. You have given me confidence and  a deeper understanding of my self. I have been able to control my anxiety and relax allot more! I saw improvement from the very first session. My whole life and understanding has changed for the positive. Again thank you!!!” 

It doesn’t get better than that or can it…?

We, (young, old and in the middle and any sex) all have this ability to take action, to have the courage to make a change in our lives, to take back responsibility for your life and have it they way you want it. You don’t need to know how, just how you want to be and we’ll help you.

If this resonates with you, even if only a little then do one of two things:

Contact us by email by clicking HERE

Or

Simply call us on 01223 720 120

 

 

What can hypnotherapy & Hypnosis do? Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Can we Cure?

The other day a prospective client came to our complimentary initial consultation saying they had been told by their friends to see a hypnotherapist to get cured. Oh I forgot to add the cure was also to be guaranteed.

This begs the question

Who do we know who can say they can cure?” Or “Who do you know who can and does guarantee a cure?

Let’s see….

v     A physiotherapist….. No

v     A nurse……………No

v     Oh! I know a doctor…… No. We have all heard of patients being told   there’s nothing more we can do or the prognosis is ‘x’ amount of time left to live. Some cure!

v     A Surgeon…… No, they get you to sign a consent form and give percentage chances of a full recovery.

 

The thing is we believe if a client can be cured they actually cure themselves, it’s just they get help from someone like us, and the processes we have developed, here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy. You see we believe this because there are so many cases of remission of illnesses without a supposed cure so then logically, why can’t anyone do the same thing? Ordinary people doing extraordinary things.

 

Now we seem to be have been talking about really serious illnesses or dis-ease and whilst we jump at the chance to help anyone suffering in this way many of the symptoms we see with our clients are:

v     Depression

v     Anxiety

v     Low self-esteem

v     Eating disorders

v     Drinking issues

v    Weight Loss

v     Stopping or quitting smoking

v     Gambling

v     And the list goes on and on and on.

 

The thing is if someone can overcome serious illness (and they do, we all know that) then the list above should not be that difficult to resolve when the will is there, that “I’m prepared to do whatever it takes”. We are all ordinary people who can do extraordinary things!

 

Why do we believe this?

Because we (Paul, Luke and Joseph) have all have had many experiences of our clients making wonderful changes to their lives. It’s not magic but a very magical experience for us and our clients. It’s the reason we do this ‘job’ which isn’t really a job when you’re passionate, as we are, about what we do.

 

Lose weight with Hypnotherapy? Let’s change your mindset about food and watch that happen anyway!!!

Monday, January 7th, 2013

2013 is upon us, and no doubt 1000’s of people out there are now starting to plan their new healthy eating diets and joining up with their local gyms in order to lose weight, as this year they’re sure things will be different…..

I admire their initial motivation, and their positive approach to weight loss is wonderful to see, but I really do think that these people are approaching losing weight COMPLETELY wrong. The reason I think this is simple….. FOOD is not the problem, THEY are!! As they think about not eating that rich chocolate cake that’s in the fridge, or those tins of chocolates left over after Christmas, or even all those other goodies they have in the cupboard, one thing is for certain…. they are thinking about food!! Quite simply whatever you focus on you will get, even if you are telling yourself not to do it.

You can try this yourself pretty simply by doing the following… First think about not eating chocolate and notice what happens. I’m sure you are already thinking about the chocolate that you want to not eat, and how good it tastes when you ate it before. Now go ahead and think about eating a nice juicy orange, and notice the pictures you create in your mind. Completely different pictures right? However, when you look at it both outcomes are the same, only one is focusing on what you want to not do, and the other on what you do want to do. Compare this to a Sat Nav…. how often would you ever put in where you don’t want to go to? If you did put in where you wanted to not go to, it would end up taking you there, not good!

Our approach to helping  you lose weight is very straightforward and easy. We simply help you change what food means to you, and start to get your mind focusing on what you do want to eat, how much you want to exercise, and what you want to look like, not what you don’t want to look like.

Here is an email from a recent client that found out just how easy it can to change with Cambridge Hypnotherapy.

I admit I came to hypnotherapy a cynic. I had tried diets and exercise and never stuck to them before and I wasn’t sure how hypnotherapy could help me. I am so pleased I gave it a go! The hypnotherapy helped change my mind set and now not only do I eat healthily and exercise regularly – I enjoy it too! In fact the whole experience has been thoroughly enjoyable – I have loved talking to you, relished the relaxing feeling of trance when hypnotized and most of all I like the new me that is 1st 8lb lighter and happier! Thank you.

So why not start out your new year with the right approach. You too can achieve the same results in only 2-3 sessions as they did. Contact us here not to arrange your free initial consultation. I look forward to hearing from you 🙂

Luke Clough

Cambridge Hypnotherapy ~ guaranteed to help in some way

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

I was talking to a prospective client on the telephone just the other day desperately seeking help for their child. Unfortunately I did not feel we were the right people to help, or may better put I had a feeling there must and should be someone more experienced in this particular field/problem area to deal with a client of such a young age.

The problem this lady had was she felt totally unsupported and left with no particular course of action. Obviously if she was unable to find someone we would offer to help ~ I just thought there must be a more experienced person used to dealing with this.

If I wasn’t the right person I could certainly be a person to offer support and help which is what I did ~ in two ways.

The first was to ask a simple question which I thought would have been asked by the ‘Experts’! Which was

Well what happened just before the problem started?”

 A simple question and generally there always seems to a trigger in our lives that creates our issues. To my disbelief it hadn’t been asked yet the answer gave all the information you would need to help heal the situation/issue and gave hope that having identified the why/how the problem started there was a way in resolving it for her child. Maybe you can forgive GPs not asking this question in the 10 minutes they have to deal with their patients but this was a serious thing to be happening to one so young it seemed to me the natural question to start with.

The second thing I did was to find information of someone more qualified to help, call them and relayed details to both parties. If all else fails we will see the child and do the best we can because that’s what caring people do.

Now the thing is, finding the trigger is one thing, it’s really a protection mechanism of the body and our unconscious mind. Getting that trigger to trigger off a better behaviour is the real key to success. If we spend just a little time, using our specially developed questioning we seem to find the cause as well. That’s why we rarely see our clients more than 2-3 sessions.

From there on it’s relatively easy to create the change both comfortably and easily that stays changed. Our metaphor is of a weed the more you pull the leaves the more leaves it seems to grow (the problem spreads to other areas of our lives) BUT when you pull out the root the weed and all its leaves disappear for good.

So I guess to sum up if you have a problem makes you feel bad or react in way you don’t like get in touch and ask if we can help. A consultation costs you nothing – It’s complimentary and it could just change your life for the better there and then. I know we can help if not personally we can help you find a way. Because that’s what we do

Click here to email us or call on 01223 720 120

How we don’t do Hypnotherapy in Cambridge

Thursday, December 1st, 2011

 There’s a wonderful clip on Youtube

To me, one of the funniest men to create stories that come to life in your head.

This one’s a skit video.

Okay so maybe you need a more empathetic solution

here it is Cambridge Hypnotherapy

 

Hypnotherapy in Cambridge ~ What to expect at an initial consultation

Wednesday, November 16th, 2011

 What to expect at an initial consultation with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

 We think the bravest thing you do in solving your issues and making the changes you want is to arrange or book an initial consultation.

 So when you come along here’s what to expect:

Well firstly DON’T expect to be hypnotised because you won’t. We don’t do any work at all on your issues ~ so you can relax now.

 

But you can expect to made comfortable because that’s the most important thing about this consultation ~ It’s your 20 minutes to make a considered decision if you are comfortable with us and that we’re right for you together with having all your questions answered:

 

Questions like

 

  • How many sessions?
  • How long do sessions last?
  • How much?
  • What’s it like to be hypnotised?
  • What’s NLP, Time Line Therapy?
  • Some people ask if it’s okay to drive after a session.
  • Is it totally confidential?

 

We will answer all of the above and more so rest assured you will have all the information to make a choice.

 

AND

 

if we don’t think we’re right for you we will tell you and advise you how to get the right way. It’s really important to us to make sure you get what you want.

 

AND

 

Whether you proceed or not we will give you our ‘What will it mean to me’ CD with our compliments

 

AND

 

If you didn’t receive a link to our 30 minutes of hypnosis downloads we will send you that as well, again with our compliments.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fears and Phobias ~ a lifting and flying experience ~ Gone in only 90 minutes

Thursday, October 20th, 2011

Imagine how much more difficult life would be if lifts and escalators didn’t exist? Having to visit relatives in a hospital on the 12th floor…. going into large shopping centres and wanting to have a look in a shop on the top level…. realising you have parked on the top floor of the car park and now you have to carry all of your heavy shopping bags up with you, every step of the way.

 Well for some people this is their life. A phobia of lifts and escalators is hugely common, and it certainly was for Rachel (name changed for confidentiality). Rachel was in her 70’s and had never been in a lift or travelled up/down an escalator in her entire life, which for me is a huge thing to even fathom. Up until a short while before she contacted me, she Rachel had been content to accept this and wasn’t too fussed about changing now, after all, in her words she’d “managed ok up until now”. However, not only did she have a phobia of lifts and escalators, she was also immensely afraid of flying, and had never been on a plane as the thought of it was just too much and sent her into a state of panic. However she now had a newly found motivation in the shape of a grandchild who lived a plane journey away, and she wasn’t letting this fear get in the way of that!

 So you’re probably thinking that as she had had these phobias for over 70 years, and that there was a fear of flying, lifts AND escalators it must have taken lots of sessions  to help Rachel let go of them all. Surely it couldn’t be as easy as someone who had had a phobia for only a very short time, could it? The short answer is YES, it was that simple. It took Rachel only 90 minutes to finally be free of those horrible feelings. Only 30 minutes after our session, she rang me to say she was in john Lewis, travelling down the escalator, and she couldn’t believe the view of the shop, something she had never even contemplated before. And then only a few weeks later I received the following email, which highlights just how far Rachel had come!

 

Hi Luke

 

Just wanted to let you know that I had a fantastic holiday and had no

problems with going in lifts and even though our room was on the 7th

floor I was able to sit out on the balcony and enjoy the views – prior

to having hypnotherapy with you I couldn’t go in a lift and wouldn’t be

happy going above the 2nd floor let alone look out over a balcony. 

Also managed really well on the flights this time.

 

So thank you very much Luke as it has made a huge difference to my

life..

 

SO if there is something that you want to change in your life, whether it’s a phobia you want to let go of, or simply to become more confident and let go of anxiety, contact us now to find out just how quickly you can do it!

Loneliness advice ~ hypnotherapy in Cambridge

Tuesday, April 12th, 2011

Being alone for some people can be just what they want. A time for thinking, working things out in their heads ~ finding a little space in our busy lives.

For others being alone can be isolating to the extreme and create deep feelings of loneliness.

If you have ever experienced this you will know that feeling, which is different for each one of us. For some it may be an empty feeling, others a feeling of loss and helplessness.

So for those who want that space and can’t find it what can you do?

Well one thing is to commit to yourself in advance. Commit to a time (and a place) and keep in sacrosanct. Tell others who may want your time what you are doing so they can respect your time and give you the space you want.

Then go do it

and you may wish to record your thoughts in a journal especially how good it is to have this space and time with yourself. You are speaking to your best friend, your unconscious mind, this way and therefore the next time you do this the experience will get better and better.

But what about those of us who feel alone now?

What can we do?

Well, there are many things you can do and the information’s is all around, in libraries, newspapers or the internet to find activities, groups or relationships. I know that’s easier said than done if our loneliness is connected to grief, sadness, low self esteem or limiting beliefs we have about ourselves.

The thing is it doesn’t have to be this way (the title of my book about grief) because there is plenty of help at hand

such as:

  • Yes of course we’re here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy and can help you find the real you, the you with all the resources and confidence to create the life what you choose.
  • read empowering autobiographies ~ there’s plenty from Victor Frankl to those of ‘Dragons Den’ and plenty in between.
  • Go on a couple of seminars ~ Joseph’s ‘Reclaim your Destiny’ and ‘Empowerment Live’ to name but two
  • Do a mind map of all the things that interested you as a child, things that excited you and when you have filled a whole page ask yourself the question ” where can I find these feelings or something similar now?”
  • Read “Feel the Fear and do it anyway”
  • go to a book shop and look at all the self help books available and pick one that feels right. Don’t just Read it ~ READ IT and DO WHAT IT SUGGESTS!

the list goes on only your imagination is your boundary and that’s infinite

If you do want one to one help get in contact with us and arrange a complementary consultation via email enquiries@cambridgehypnotherapy.co.uk or better still call us on 01223 720 120

Choose to take action now

and you may like these words

Never alone, never bymyself ~  ALWAYS WITH MYSELF

Paul