Posts Tagged ‘anxiety’

Dealing with Jealousy with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Friday, November 30th, 2012

Jealousy.

We all seem to suffer a little with jealousy I guess. Most of the time it’s just a passing thought that disappears as quickly as it comes.

We see the effects of jealousy and the green eyed monster in all the tabloids, in the tell tell tales of who did what with whom.

More importantly is the effect of our own jealous part in side us. Or should I say effects because not only do we have those thoughts and internal voices that go round and around inside our heads we also behave in such a way that actually pushes away the one person we want to be with. These behaviors and the way we attempt to communicate with that person actually does what we want least of all ~ to drive them away only to create more inner pictures we make up and feel so bad.

Is Jealousy something that can be eliminated from our relationships? ….. of course but you do need to know how to, shall we say, re-programme your mind and all it’s filters and more importantly understand why we act the way we did. It’s important to understand we do what we do for the very best of intentions (unconsciously) and we need to always honour the intention and change the behaviour to one of trust and love.

We have developed highly successful processes over the years to assist our clients to be free of jealousy and have the relationship they truly want and are able to enjoy.

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Stoptober has ended!!!

Thursday, November 1st, 2012

It’s here… The first of November… which means that Stoptober has officially ended!

For those of you that don’t know, Stoptober was a public campaign backed by Cancer Research UK and The British Heart foundation set up to encourage mass quitting of smoking for the 28 days of October. Apparently research showed that those who quit smoking for 28 days are 5 times more likely to stay smoke free. This may well be the case, and for those that did participate in Stoptober I’d love to hear your thoughts and to find out whether you have decided to remain a non smoker or whether you lit up at the first opportunity now that your campaign is over.

The problem with setting yourself a time period to stop for, already predisposes that the quitting period will end, which means you are free to go back. It’s like having a holiday in 6 weeks that you want to lose weight for, and deciding to not eat chocolate for those 6 weeks. In your mind, you will probably already be counting down the days until you can have it again, and this my only concern.

It also doesn’t address the reasons as to why you were smoking in the first place. Were you smoking because you found it an escape from stressful situations, or did you actually enjoy it at the time? To me, these are the real issues that need to be dealt with and reframed so that your unconscious mind can programme itself differently and therefore no longer feel the need for cigarettes anymore.

If you would like to find out more about how Cambridge Hypnotherapy can help you stop smoking in only 1 session, contact us here now and we’d be glad to speak with you.

Why stop for 28 days, and battle through the full 28 just to go straight back to it again, when you could stop smoking in only 1 day!

Luke Clough

Spring clean your mind with Hypnotherapy in Cambridge

Monday, February 20th, 2012

What would it be like to spring clean your mind?
We all get he need to spring clean our house, desk, office or some other space that just gets so cluttered after time.
What would you say if I said that spring cleaning your mind is one of the easiest things we can do for ourselves.
Think about it for a moment…….. We defrag our computers once and a while and they   to run better. When we do clean up and throw away the stuff we’ve accumulated over time or if it’s special put in a place where we can either admire it or use it.
So………
How do you think you feel if you did the same with your mind and your memories.
let’s take that one at a time
Our mind
Being clear headed with no negative emotions running around to derail us or take us of course or lead us into procrastination. Wow!!!!
How would that feel and what things would you be able to start, do and finish??
And what about those memories…?
I am talking about those that, when we think of them or something reminds of them we get to feel either anxious, sad or angry. If we were able to change those so they didn’t bother us, became neutral how good would that be??
Well the good news is that all the above is possible in probably 2 sessions with us here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy.
How…?
Well that’s our little secret. But using our specially developed ways of using hypnosis, NLP and time line therapy(tm) we have found ways to spring clean our minds and have a better future. To enjoy life.
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when Grief causes anxiety ~ Hypnotherapy in Cambridge

Saturday, January 14th, 2012

I know Luke will soon writing of two amazing successes he received feed back from last week. Both to do with Fears and Phobias but with totally different and startling results.

I’d like to tell of a client I saw last week too, which at the consultation the main issue was anxiety around driving (which is so so easy to change by the way).

This changed however when we began the session ~ was anxiety around driving the cause of this clients issue, they thought it was when they came but we soon discovered this was simply an effect of the real issue which when it came to light was that they were still suffering from  grief together with an un-supporting belief to boot.

Did I panic because I had only prepared for a driving session ~ absolutely not because I hadn’t prepared in that way. We here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy never assume any issue is the real issue until we are sure because as a general rule it isn’t. That’s why so many others (therapists) fail to help their clients quickly and comfortably which I think is a disservice to our clients. All of us here (Luke, Joseph and myself) are committed to brief therapy (the fewest amount of sessions) and complete and lasting change.

Anyway back to my client. Once we, well the client really discovered the real cause of their anxiety (they understood and new now that this was the real problem that needed being dealt with) we did deal with it quickly and with no tears. Well no tears until we had finished but they were tears of joy because they now had a set of wonderful memories and a loving connection with that person they had been grieving for, grieving for far to long and now they felt like a whole weight had been lifted from their shoulders. That really does make this job a brilliant one.

One session that’s all it took to get that kind of freedom.

Your problems could disappear that quickly too why not call 01223 720 120 or email us by clicking here

Successful New Year’s Resolutions with Hypnotherapy in Cambridge.

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

We have all made New Year’s Resolutions only to find them disappearing within a day or two from our minds.

Why is that?

One reason is that we all have a little baggage, some emotions like anger, sadness or guilt that seems to be around just when we don’t want it or lie in the background like a shadow. It’s these things that if we don’t let them go we will never get what we want and the thing is we deserve to have all the things we dream of having and experiencing ~ Well that’s our belief.

There used to be a belief in therapy that to let things go, change our negative beliefs takes a long long time, over many sessions. In fact we still see this on some therapists websites saying “10-12 sessions usually required”!!!!!!! (they’re our !!!!!!!! marks!!!)

The thing is that’s not the way we see it here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy we rarely see anybody more than three sessions before we get their results.

So with this in mind why would you want to wait to change the way you feel now to how you want to feel. You wouldn’t and couldn’t if you really want to be the way you want to be. And that’s the key really wanting (and you don’t have to know how because we know the how)

And here’s another and

AND………………

it costs you nothing to find out if we’re right for you

all you have to do is contact us and arrange a Complimentary Consultation ~ 20 minutes to how we can help you and get a complimentary Hypnosis cd and 2 hypnosis downloads too! and (yes another and) they’ll be no pressure from us because it’s always your choice.

If you want you can call and speak with us personally on 01223 720 120

Paul, Luke & Joseph

Hypnotherapy without Hypnosis in Cambridge?

Saturday, December 3rd, 2011

So how deep do you have to go into hypnosis to get the benefit?

Some people, including some hypnotists still think you have to go really deep. Yet when you think about it, if you have an issue you have surely changed from what you did to what you do now. That’s just logical, isn’t it? And when you changed back then were you put in a deep trance? ~ I think not.

Which all goes on to suggest you may not need a trance to change ~ Hey that’s NLP and Time line therapy(tm) isn’t it? Well you may not know what they are but believe me they’re processes that do not require trance.

SO………….

Why use hypnosis?

Good question!

Well sometimes we have thought about our problem for ages, talked about it to everyone or just ourselves for a long time and we need to get away from all these conscious thoughts. Another great reason is that our issues, which we really believe are just behaviours, are being carried out by our unconscious mind (try walking with only your conscious mind ~ it doesn’t work) the place to change is at the unconscious level and get your unconscious mind to do all the work.

That’s the great thing about the way all three of us work here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy. We can adapt our processes to you and your needs so if hypnosis isn’t required then that’s okay.

We once had a client who really didn’t want to be hypnotised and for a hypnotist that could have been a real problem! Not here we used other ways to help that person change comfortably. We have also had clients who have heard just how good hypnosis is and only want that and that’s what we use, we just adapt what we do, it’s as simple as that.

So back to the original question

The Answer:

Who cares as long as you do (get the benefit)

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How we don’t do Hypnotherapy in Cambridge

Thursday, December 1st, 2011

 There’s a wonderful clip on Youtube

To me, one of the funniest men to create stories that come to life in your head.

This one’s a skit video.

Okay so maybe you need a more empathetic solution

here it is Cambridge Hypnotherapy

 

Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Christmas and relation(ships)

Sunday, November 27th, 2011

It’s an interesting but sad fact that divorce lawyers/solicitors do more business over the Christmas period than any other time of the year.

The time of year when we hear ‘Good will to all (wo)men’, the giving time and that time when we think of new resolutions.

Yet it seems for many we just can’t communicate our love for each other in a way that’s understood or received in a way we want it to be.

So what in essence should be a wonderful time of our year where we get more of that valuable thing called time to spend with our loved ones can end up in such an emotional minefield.

The thing is it doesn’t have to be this way at all if you don’t want it to be. YOU can make it a time that increases and intensifies your relationships.

Here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy we have worked with many clients to reinforce the core of their relationship with their partner or family easily and comfortably.

It doesn’t take long and it doesn’t always need you both to attend. You know as well as we do when one half of a relationship steps up and makes things better the other will automatically follow. That’s just a simple fact of life!

Here’s a thought:

Think about the first time you kissed your partner, the very first time. Remember what you felt back then, go on really feel it again and notice you can intensify or magnify that feeling.

And, as you dothat, think of another wonderful time when you really felt that love and again really feel that feeling.

And then……..

look at you partner holding on to that feeling and ask yourself

What can I do now to express this feeling?” and then just do it!

That’s only the tip of the iceberg of what we can do. Imagine having someone to guide you through empowering processes that will increase your love, your life and your future.

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Our Hypnotherapy in Cambridge ~ So why do we do this stuff?

Saturday, November 12th, 2011

 Hypnosis, hypnotism ~ So why do we do this stuff?

This thing , which some people say doesn’t exist and others hold in mystery (if only they knew !).

 

Here’s the answer on the form of another question(s).

Why would two young men, 18 and 24 year old respectively, decide to enter into the world of helping people and in affect totally risk their livelihoods? Changing steady careers to one of uncertainty.

 

Why would someone highly experienced and respected in business say no to that life and change direction completely towards caring for people?

 

Why?

 

Because the answer to all the above must be PASSION. Having a passion for what we do and getting the best buzz life can give you when you see someone change, let go of old ‘stuff’ like depression which has held them back for years or overcoming low self esteem such as “I’m not good enough, deserving enough etc. etc. There are few things in life that gives you that feeling and we get to experience with our clients.

 

And the best thing is the passion is growing.

 

Sorry the answer is so short ~ but it is sweet.

Releasing anger ~ Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Thursday, November 10th, 2011

This article was written a little while ago for the Time Line Therapy Association about one of my clients and their most brilliant change in their life and showed how wonderful the effects of Time Line Therapy ™ are.

And because it was such a big experience we thought we should put in on our blog as well

Before we worked on this issue I was put to the test to see how good a hypnotist I was. To stop this client smoking in one session. I wouldn’t normally do therapy this way around ~ I would usually deal with issues and then the smoking but this client wasn’t having any of it.

This clients opening sentence to me was:

My Anger is Killing me.”

From the very first moment of learning Time Line Therapy(tm) I knew it worked. It just did. It worked with letting go of my negative emotions on the trainings and wth those I did the exercises with.

But then something happens to test this belief and it did with me, BIG time!
My client came into his session and during the personal history the full extent of his problem was presented to me with the words “If I don’t get help I will die ~ That’s what my doctor has told me so I’ve come to you” Wow.

His Doctor knew there was nothing physically wrong but the effects were physical. Our client was losing weight by the day  and dangerously so. This was also causing deterioration in his organs, blood pressure was above high and blood tests showed other malfunctions. On a personal level this man used to have his daughter and son living with him but that had now all changed. His son had left home and no longer wanted more than brief contact and his daughter, now married and recently a mother did not want any contact with her father or her child with her Grandfather.
What was at the root of this diagnosis – Anger but anger in the extreme.
How was this a problem was a question I didn’t need to ask.
How long have you had this problem ~ 11 years.

I asked “How do you do this problem? ” ~ I think about it every minute of my waking day and sometimes in my dreams when I eventually do get to sleep. I argue with this person in my head. I shout and scream in my head. It gets so loud I have to put on earphones and a CD player at full volume to drown out the noise, it’s constant.

I wanted to know as little content as possible but this client wanted me to know a little so I could understand him better.

This is what he told me:
“Briefly I am so angry with my wife and have been for 11 years, I’ve told you how it has affected my relationships with my son and daughter and that only fans the flames of this anger. I’ve told you how it has and is affecting my health to the point where I am killing myself. That makes me SO angry as well and I can’t stop it – The problem is my wife died 12 years ago and a year after her death I found out something about what she did behind my back with someone else so I’ll never be able to find out………………..”
As always, as I was taught and how I teach in my trainings, I simply follow the scripts which are deep inside me now I can say them unconsciously from memory.
We established where his time line was and a simple test flight which being so far away from what he had been talking about was done with ease.

I love to show the diagrams of the process which really pre-teaches the unconscious mind what to do and what will happen and when the emotion will disappear along with a little re-framing of how anger and negative emotions do not protect and are against the prime directive of the unconscious mind. All was going well.
What really began to blow him away was that finding the root cause was not 11 years ago but at such an early age.
Now for Time Line Therapy(tm) and ten minutes of time.

IT’S GONE! What? how? where? …………….”

After testing, still gone but the real test was to be outside, in the real world.
I had tried to make contact but could never get through just voice mail so I didn’t know what to think.
Then whilst I was out one day  a second appointment was made for me with this client. Why a second appointment? So maybe I hadn’t got the result we wanted, my belief was really being tested. All I could do is wait.

So there I am waiting for my client and in he comes.
“why are you here?” I ask
Well I just wanted to tell you what happened since we last met and felt it only right to make an appointment. Here is how I am now:
The anger I felt is gone I still can’t get it.
My doctor tells me my tests are now showing a dramatic improvement and is left wondering what happened and my weight is returning to what it should be.
Oh I’ve stopped smoking – don’t need them any more.
But more importantly to me my son has returned home to live with me.
Oh I nearly forgot I’m away this weekend to stay with my daughter and her new family and I am now part of the christening plans for my Granddaughter
Thank you

Isn’t great to be part of that, the buz you get and reaffirming why we do what we do.
Does Time line work? I wouldn’t and couldn’t use it or teach it if it didn’t.

Am I congruent when I talk about time line ~ You guess!