Posts Tagged ‘anger’

Spring clean your mind with Hypnotherapy in Cambridge

Monday, February 20th, 2012

What would it be like to spring clean your mind?
We all get he need to spring clean our house, desk, office or some other space that just gets so cluttered after time.
What would you say if I said that spring cleaning your mind is one of the easiest things we can do for ourselves.
Think about it for a moment…….. We defrag our computers once and a while and they   to run better. When we do clean up and throw away the stuff we’ve accumulated over time or if it’s special put in a place where we can either admire it or use it.
So………
How do you think you feel if you did the same with your mind and your memories.
let’s take that one at a time
Our mind
Being clear headed with no negative emotions running around to derail us or take us of course or lead us into procrastination. Wow!!!!
How would that feel and what things would you be able to start, do and finish??
And what about those memories…?
I am talking about those that, when we think of them or something reminds of them we get to feel either anxious, sad or angry. If we were able to change those so they didn’t bother us, became neutral how good would that be??
Well the good news is that all the above is possible in probably 2 sessions with us here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy.
How…?
Well that’s our little secret. But using our specially developed ways of using hypnosis, NLP and time line therapy(tm) we have found ways to spring clean our minds and have a better future. To enjoy life.
Why not find out more by clicking here
or
Call us on 01223 720 120

Successful New Year’s Resolutions with Hypnotherapy in Cambridge.

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

We have all made New Year’s Resolutions only to find them disappearing within a day or two from our minds.

Why is that?

One reason is that we all have a little baggage, some emotions like anger, sadness or guilt that seems to be around just when we don’t want it or lie in the background like a shadow. It’s these things that if we don’t let them go we will never get what we want and the thing is we deserve to have all the things we dream of having and experiencing ~ Well that’s our belief.

There used to be a belief in therapy that to let things go, change our negative beliefs takes a long long time, over many sessions. In fact we still see this on some therapists websites saying “10-12 sessions usually required”!!!!!!! (they’re our !!!!!!!! marks!!!)

The thing is that’s not the way we see it here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy we rarely see anybody more than three sessions before we get their results.

So with this in mind why would you want to wait to change the way you feel now to how you want to feel. You wouldn’t and couldn’t if you really want to be the way you want to be. And that’s the key really wanting (and you don’t have to know how because we know the how)

And here’s another and

AND………………

it costs you nothing to find out if we’re right for you

all you have to do is contact us and arrange a Complimentary Consultation ~ 20 minutes to how we can help you and get a complimentary Hypnosis cd and 2 hypnosis downloads too! and (yes another and) they’ll be no pressure from us because it’s always your choice.

If you want you can call and speak with us personally on 01223 720 120

Paul, Luke & Joseph

Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Christmas and relation(ships)

Sunday, November 27th, 2011

It’s an interesting but sad fact that divorce lawyers/solicitors do more business over the Christmas period than any other time of the year.

The time of year when we hear ‘Good will to all (wo)men’, the giving time and that time when we think of new resolutions.

Yet it seems for many we just can’t communicate our love for each other in a way that’s understood or received in a way we want it to be.

So what in essence should be a wonderful time of our year where we get more of that valuable thing called time to spend with our loved ones can end up in such an emotional minefield.

The thing is it doesn’t have to be this way at all if you don’t want it to be. YOU can make it a time that increases and intensifies your relationships.

Here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy we have worked with many clients to reinforce the core of their relationship with their partner or family easily and comfortably.

It doesn’t take long and it doesn’t always need you both to attend. You know as well as we do when one half of a relationship steps up and makes things better the other will automatically follow. That’s just a simple fact of life!

Here’s a thought:

Think about the first time you kissed your partner, the very first time. Remember what you felt back then, go on really feel it again and notice you can intensify or magnify that feeling.

And, as you dothat, think of another wonderful time when you really felt that love and again really feel that feeling.

And then……..

look at you partner holding on to that feeling and ask yourself

What can I do now to express this feeling?” and then just do it!

That’s only the tip of the iceberg of what we can do. Imagine having someone to guide you through empowering processes that will increase your love, your life and your future.

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Releasing anger ~ Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Thursday, November 10th, 2011

This article was written a little while ago for the Time Line Therapy Association about one of my clients and their most brilliant change in their life and showed how wonderful the effects of Time Line Therapy ™ are.

And because it was such a big experience we thought we should put in on our blog as well

Before we worked on this issue I was put to the test to see how good a hypnotist I was. To stop this client smoking in one session. I wouldn’t normally do therapy this way around ~ I would usually deal with issues and then the smoking but this client wasn’t having any of it.

This clients opening sentence to me was:

My Anger is Killing me.”

From the very first moment of learning Time Line Therapy(tm) I knew it worked. It just did. It worked with letting go of my negative emotions on the trainings and wth those I did the exercises with.

But then something happens to test this belief and it did with me, BIG time!
My client came into his session and during the personal history the full extent of his problem was presented to me with the words “If I don’t get help I will die ~ That’s what my doctor has told me so I’ve come to you” Wow.

His Doctor knew there was nothing physically wrong but the effects were physical. Our client was losing weight by the day  and dangerously so. This was also causing deterioration in his organs, blood pressure was above high and blood tests showed other malfunctions. On a personal level this man used to have his daughter and son living with him but that had now all changed. His son had left home and no longer wanted more than brief contact and his daughter, now married and recently a mother did not want any contact with her father or her child with her Grandfather.
What was at the root of this diagnosis – Anger but anger in the extreme.
How was this a problem was a question I didn’t need to ask.
How long have you had this problem ~ 11 years.

I asked “How do you do this problem? ” ~ I think about it every minute of my waking day and sometimes in my dreams when I eventually do get to sleep. I argue with this person in my head. I shout and scream in my head. It gets so loud I have to put on earphones and a CD player at full volume to drown out the noise, it’s constant.

I wanted to know as little content as possible but this client wanted me to know a little so I could understand him better.

This is what he told me:
“Briefly I am so angry with my wife and have been for 11 years, I’ve told you how it has affected my relationships with my son and daughter and that only fans the flames of this anger. I’ve told you how it has and is affecting my health to the point where I am killing myself. That makes me SO angry as well and I can’t stop it – The problem is my wife died 12 years ago and a year after her death I found out something about what she did behind my back with someone else so I’ll never be able to find out………………..”
As always, as I was taught and how I teach in my trainings, I simply follow the scripts which are deep inside me now I can say them unconsciously from memory.
We established where his time line was and a simple test flight which being so far away from what he had been talking about was done with ease.

I love to show the diagrams of the process which really pre-teaches the unconscious mind what to do and what will happen and when the emotion will disappear along with a little re-framing of how anger and negative emotions do not protect and are against the prime directive of the unconscious mind. All was going well.
What really began to blow him away was that finding the root cause was not 11 years ago but at such an early age.
Now for Time Line Therapy(tm) and ten minutes of time.

IT’S GONE! What? how? where? …………….”

After testing, still gone but the real test was to be outside, in the real world.
I had tried to make contact but could never get through just voice mail so I didn’t know what to think.
Then whilst I was out one day  a second appointment was made for me with this client. Why a second appointment? So maybe I hadn’t got the result we wanted, my belief was really being tested. All I could do is wait.

So there I am waiting for my client and in he comes.
“why are you here?” I ask
Well I just wanted to tell you what happened since we last met and felt it only right to make an appointment. Here is how I am now:
The anger I felt is gone I still can’t get it.
My doctor tells me my tests are now showing a dramatic improvement and is left wondering what happened and my weight is returning to what it should be.
Oh I’ve stopped smoking – don’t need them any more.
But more importantly to me my son has returned home to live with me.
Oh I nearly forgot I’m away this weekend to stay with my daughter and her new family and I am now part of the christening plans for my Granddaughter
Thank you

Isn’t great to be part of that, the buz you get and reaffirming why we do what we do.
Does Time line work? I wouldn’t and couldn’t use it or teach it if it didn’t.

Am I congruent when I talk about time line ~ You guess!

Dealing with grief ~ a good way to remember those we love

Thursday, December 18th, 2008

Today is the 2nd anniversary of my mothers passing and who knows what has prompted me to write this, other than to pass on some thoughts. (or maybe just some personal ramblings)

There’s a line in a song

‘ you left me here, to remind me of you’ and that to me is a comfort

~ as long as I am here, so will she.

and hopefully I can display those wonderful qualities she taught me by the way she was and the way she still is within me.

We don’t have to be sad, angry or alone when we remember those who have left us ~ I’m not ~ I miss her and speak to her most days and listen. Not just with my ears but with an awareness and I seem to understand.

But how can you remember in a way that makes you feel ok?

This is what I do.

I think of a good time(s) with her and see it as if I’m looking through my own eyes.

I’m there again,seeing what I saw, hearing what I heard and I feel the good feelings I had and every good memory is the same way. I make it that way because that’s how I want it to be.

If any memory isn’t of a good time, I see it differently. I see myself in the memory, (as if it’s a movie with me in it) over there and I make it smaller and darker, I make it still and move it away from me ~ any not so good feeling just diminish

This is not the only way but a sure way to remember what you want, how you want to and it’s good to remember because……………..

‘ you left me here, to remind me of you’

Enjoy your every heart beat

Paul

DEALING WITH STRESS and ANXIETY in Cambridge

Friday, December 12th, 2008

We are all dealing with stress ~ it’s just that sometimes you do it well and other times badly. And when you’re feeling overwhelmed you’re dealing with it badly.

Not exactly rocket science I hear you cry (or sob)

You see but maybe you feel it, when you deal with stress badly it not only affects your work, your ability to concentrate it often spirals down to your home life which in turn only makes it worse at work. We all know or have the experience of this.

From the feeling of being anxious to panic attacks, that ‘D’ word ~ Depression and what it is sometimes called social phobia. As usual the list goes on and on and on……………. Our health is affected and being affected badly by stress and seems to lead to being open to every cold, flu, sore throat etc. etc. etc.

Is this depressing enough for you? …………………………….It is me ~ so let’s GO MAKE A DIFFERENCE

because you can.

You can choose to be different and feel the way you want (yippee that’s more like it)

I believe it is your duty to yourself to be able to be the real you, to perform at your best, be successful and above all enjoy doing and being you at home, at play and at work

and you can do this us:

To be in the best and appropriate state

To be able to change your state instantly

To be able to deal with situations positively

To see things for what they are and not what they appear to be

To manage your emotions (yes, we all have them……….. and at work too!)

To deal with perceived criticism

To let go of Anger, Sadness, Fear and Guilt or any other negative emotion

To be able to be relaxed to chill out (hip Eh?)

 

          In short be at your best at all times and YOU CAN

Your Yule Dude (hop hip talk!)

         Paul

Dealing with being (made) redundant ~Redundancy

Monday, December 8th, 2008

If you have never been there, being made redundant, it’s very difficult to imagine how it feels. The very term Redundant has deep emotional meaning to those who it affects.

The dictionary definintion “1. superfluous 2. no longer needed (at work)”

For some it can be taken as an identity issue ~ I AM redundant, I AM no longer needed.

And all of this can raise what we would term ‘negative emotions’ such as anger, sadness, guilt and for some the feeling of grief as real as losing someone.

BUT……..

This does not have to be this way … Oh No! (nearly swore there)

We can change those feelings into what we want. To replace them with expectation, opportunity, relief, passion and even gratitude.

The past is exactly what it is THE PAST, it’s gone and the great thing about the future is that it hasn’t arrived so we can make it the way we want to experience the now.

How?

By using the one thing that’s more powerful than anything else in the world……Our Mind.

When we use our mind in such a way we can feel the way we want to feel, see what we want to see and attract what we want in our lives.

Sounds too easy?

That’s because you haven’t experienced it

With Hypnoisis, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Time Line Therapy plus a whole lot of other things we have learnt and developed we can make those changes. All you have to do is want to do it now.

Remember what ever thought you’re thinking~ You’re more than that and more than that too!

At the moment I am in the middle for creating an audio book for dealing with loss and in that I guide my listener ( there must be at least one) on ways to overcome loss, grief of any kind easily and quickly based on my work with a friend of mine. I’ll post a couple of simple things they did real soon

You’re more than that

Paul