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 Hypnosis, hypnotism ~ So why do we do this stuff?

This thing , which some people say doesn’t exist and others hold in mystery (if only they knew !).

Here’s the answer on the form of another question(s).

Why would two young men, 18 and 24 year old respectively, decide to enter into the world of helping people and in affect totally risk their livelihoods? Changing steady careers to one of uncertainty.

Why would someone highly experienced and respected in business say no to that life and change direction completely towards caring for people?

Why?

Because the answer to all the above must be PASSION. Having a passion for what we do and getting the best buzz life can give you when you see someone change, let go of old ‘stuff’ like depression which has held them back for years or overcoming low self esteem such as “I’m not good enough, deserving enough etc. etc. There are few things in life that gives you that feeling and we get to experience with our clients.

And the best thing is the passion is growing.

Sorry the answer is so short ~ but it is sweet.

This article was written a little while ago for the Time Line Therapy Association about one of my clients and their most brilliant change in their life and showed how wonderful the effects of Time Line Therapy ™ are.

And because it was such a big experience we thought we should put in on our blog as well

Before we worked on this issue I was put to the test to see how good a hypnotist I was. To stop this client smoking in one session. I wouldn’t normally do therapy this way around ~ I would usually deal with issues and then the smoking but this client wasn’t having any of it.

This clients opening sentence to me was:

“My Anger is Killing me.”

From the very first moment of learning Time Line Therapy(tm) I knew it worked. It just did. It worked with letting go of my negative emotions on the trainings and wth those I did the exercises with.

But then something happens to test this belief and it did with me, BIG time!
My client came into his session and during the personal history the full extent of his problem was presented to me with the words “If I don’t get help I will die ~ That’s what my doctor has told me so I’ve come to you” Wow.

His Doctor knew there was nothing physically wrong but the effects were physical. Our client was losing weight by the day  and dangerously so. This was also causing deterioration in his organs, blood pressure was above high and blood tests showed other malfunctions. On a personal level this man used to have his daughter and son living with him but that had now all changed. His son had left home and no longer wanted more than brief contact and his daughter, now married and recently a mother did not want any contact with her father or her child with her Grandfather.
What was at the root of this diagnosis – Anger but anger in the extreme.
How was this a problem was a question I didn’t need to ask.
How long have you had this problem ~ 11 years.

I asked “How do you do this problem? ” ~ I think about it every minute of my waking day and sometimes in my dreams when I eventually do get to sleep. I argue with this person in my head. I shout and scream in my head. It gets so loud I have to put on earphones and a CD player at full volume to drown out the noise, it’s constant.

I wanted to know as little content as possible but this client wanted me to know a little so I could understand him better.

This is what he told me:
“Briefly I am so angry with my wife and have been for 11 years, I’ve told you how it has affected my relationships with my son and daughter and that only fans the flames of this anger. I’ve told you how it has and is affecting my health to the point where I am killing myself. That makes me SO angry as well and I can’t stop it – The problem is my wife died 12 years ago and a year after her death I found out something about what she did behind my back with someone else so I’ll never be able to find out………………..”
As always, as I was taught and how I teach in my trainings, I simply follow the scripts which are deep inside me now I can say them unconsciously from memory.
We established where his time line was and a simple test flight which being so far away from what he had been talking about was done with ease.

I love to show the diagrams of the process which really pre-teaches the unconscious mind what to do and what will happen and when the emotion will disappear along with a little re-framing of how anger and negative emotions do not protect and are against the prime directive of the unconscious mind. All was going well.
What really began to blow him away was that finding the root cause was not 11 years ago but at such an early age.
Now for Time Line Therapy(tm) and ten minutes of time.

“IT’S GONE! What? how? where? …………….”

After testing, still gone but the real test was to be outside, in the real world.
I had tried to make contact but could never get through just voice mail so I didn’t know what to think.
Then whilst I was out one day  a second appointment was made for me with this client. Why a second appointment? So maybe I hadn’t got the result we wanted, my belief was really being tested. All I could do is wait.

So there I am waiting for my client and in he comes.
“why are you here?” I ask
“Well I just wanted to tell you what happened since we last met and felt it only right to make an appointment. Here is how I am now:
The anger I felt is gone I still can’t get it.
My doctor tells me my tests are now showing a dramatic improvement and is left wondering what happened and my weight is returning to what it should be.
Oh I’ve stopped smoking – don’t need them any more.
But more importantly to me my son has returned home to live with me.
Oh I nearly forgot I’m away this weekend to stay with my daughter and her new family and I am now part of the christening plans for my Granddaughter
Thank you”

Isn’t great to be part of that, the buz you get and reaffirming why we do what we do.
Does Time line work? I wouldn’t and couldn’t use it or teach it if it didn’t.

Am I congruent when I talk about time line ~ You guess!

I have been thinking for a little while now having been in the company of people suffering from grief in some form or another. From the death of a loved one, broken marriages and relationships to loss of being able to find themselves.

Grief comes to us for many reasons and many different issues and it doesn’t matter if others think them silly or simply we should just get on with it, it is felt deeply by those who suffer.

And suffer is what we do which is the thing we need not do!

Remember ~ Yes,

Be Grateful ~ Yes

Live our lives fully and with passion ~ Yes

So I’ve decided to reduce the price of my Ebook and accompanying hypnosis downloads to £5.00. Not as a sale or for the short term but to cover costs ~ and that’s it

Paul

I’ve been reading an interesting book about dealing with Shadows ~ those within us.

It has an interesting take on using the energies of these internal shadows, when
they reveal themselves to us, to produce something positive. Put the energy
into things we enjoy and especially those of a creative nature. I know this has
worked tremendously well for the writer of this book.

Sometimes these negative feelings can be so overwhelming and when coupled with a negative
belief can be dis-empowering leading to anxiety at best and depression .

Whilst I love the authors way of using this energy
I also think that with a little skill (things we have developed here at
Cambridge Hypnotherapy can get this part (that particular shadow) of our
unconscious mind to work with us and use its energy at an unconscious level to
produce fantastic results for us.

In this way we can never be overwhelmed by the negative feelings. It’s really a
matter of understanding every behaviour has a positive intention and when that
part (shadow) realises what it is doing is totally in conflict with its
intention it has to let go of the negativity and commit to the better,
congruous way.

I think when we do this at a deep unconscious level, through hypnosis
incorporating NLP when we resolve one issue we notice other areas of our life
changing positively too. It always amazes me how far the ripples of change
spread even to the extent of positively affecting other people in our lives.

And ………………

when we begin to radiate positive thoughts and behaviours we
tend to attract more of that to us.

So really when you think about it when we become aware of these ‘shadows’, these
feelings we should begin to celebrate because it means we are going to grow,
become more aligned all it takes is just a little work with our unconscious
mind ~ and that’s what we do here.

 Enjoy
and if this has connected with you email us here

Paul

for those interested, the book I mention is called Hunting the Shadow by Geoff Thompson

Being alone for some people can be just what they want. A time for thinking, working things out in their heads ~ finding a little space in our busy lives.

For others being alone can be isolating to the extreme and create deep feelings of loneliness.

If you have ever experienced this you will know that feeling, which is different for each one of us. For some it may be an empty feeling, others a feeling of loss and helplessness.

So for those who want that space and can’t find it what can you do?

Well one thing is to commit to yourself in advance. Commit to a time (and a place) and keep in sacrosanct. Tell others who may want your time what you are doing so they can respect your time and give you the space you want.

Then go do it

and you may wish to record your thoughts in a journal especially how good it is to have this space and time with yourself. You are speaking to your best friend, your unconscious mind, this way and therefore the next time you do this the experience will get better and better.

But what about those of us who feel alone now?

What can we do?

Well, there are many things you can do and the information’s is all around, in libraries, newspapers or the internet to find activities, groups or relationships. I know that’s easier said than done if our loneliness is connected to grief, sadness, low self esteem or limiting beliefs we have about ourselves.

Paul

The vast majority of our clients here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy tend to say one thing at the end of their set of sessions with us… “I wish I’d have done this sooner!”

So why didn’t they? Quite simply, because they didn’t know how powerful their own minds were, and they didn’t understand that they were responsible for the way that they were behaving. Whether it was stopping smoking, having problems with alcohol, weight management issues, issues with lacking in confidence, and even depression, we want all our clients to accept responsibility for being where they are in their life, and not to blame others or the situations that they have been in.

So what would you change if you could? Would you like to feel that confidence that you may feel in certain situations, in other areas of your life too? Maybe you would like to know that whatever happens at work or in a social event, that you can react and respond in a way that feels right and that you would do if you could consciously choose to? Woul you like to know that it doesn’t matter whether there are cakes and biscuits, or even alcohol around, and that you can stop eating or drinking whenever you want and not feel that you ‘just can’t stop’.

Well now is the time. Please don’t wait and be one of those people who look back after struggling to deal with things for 25 years and say “I wish I’d have done this sooner!”

It really doesn’t have to be a struggle. It can be very quick and effortless if you choose it to be. Contact us now at Cambridge Hypnotherapy to find out just how easy it can be!

Have you ever had the experience of being both happy and disappointed at the same time?

I worked such a lovely client who had had depression for over 15 years and life’s experiences were not the best. Well it was those experiences that remained in the forefront of their mind when they first came to visit us for the complimentary consultation.

Desperate for someone to help and be truthful in expectations we began our first session which began the process to recovery of a life that they would enjoy and for the people in her life to enjoy too.

Because of all the things they had experienced we wanted to find the one thing that would allow them to let go of that depression (and anxiety/fear). You see, we could have just tried to eliminate each one at a time and spend countless number of sessions ~ Which we here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy DON’T, WON’T or NEVER do ~ What we did was this ~ we found the cause of their negative feelings. This is what would be termed the root cause and the metaphor we use to explain this is, if you just keep picking the leaves from a weed they just keep on growing but if you pluck out the root it has to disappear.

And this is where happy and disappointed fits in. I had my expectations of clearing this depression in three sessions (or sooner) and it took five (although begining session 5 we were already 90% better!)

One of the nicest things to happen during our time together was that this client reviewed the draft of my book about addressing and dealing with grief (it’s tentatively called “It doesn’t have to be this way”) and the critique was brilliant and maybe the content helped us too.

So I guess what I’m saying here is yes it’s really possible to change the way you feel no matter how bad or for how long in 3 or less sessions but just occasionally it takes another 3 hours.

The thing is YOU really can change if,, like our clients, you really want too and are prepared to do whatever it takes.

Paul

Some time ago I was feeling very low. Things had happened in my life that really made me feel really low. In fact it was horrible to feel so low.

And one thing I did to change that was this simple thing.

I got a sheet of paper and in the middle of it I wrote

‘My Qualities’ and drew a circle around it. And I asked myself “what are my qualities?” and to be honest the way I was feeling I couldn’t answer, I didn’t feel I had any.Anyway, I persisted, kept asking and listening for an answer and I thought…….Well at least I’m alive! that’s a qualitiy. so I drew a line from the circle and wrote that out. Then a little later they began to flow

I’ve had a sense of humour so that was a quality

I’ve made people laugh

My sons love me so I can be loved and I’m a father (that was two by the way)

I’ve painted pictures before so in my way I’m creative

I can learn things (done that before)

I have helped others

I know I’ve inspired a few people

I can breathe/smile/laugh

I can be a good friend

I have been supportive

I’ve been in love so I can love and accept love

and the list just went on and on and on…………………………..

When I’d fininshed I re-read it all in my quiet place and I began to feel different. I began to remember times that made me feel those qualities again and they were true to me.

I knew then that life would be different now and with those qualities I could feel better. Just focusing on those qualities seemed to make a difference every day to the way I felt, the way I acted and to those I lived with or met.

In fact we (that’s Joseph and I) use this in our Reclaim Your Destiny weekend seminars and on the last one when we asked for feedback someone shouted out “I really like me! ~ Thank you!”So why don’t you give this a try?

We are all dealing with stress ~ it’s just that sometimes you do it well and other times badly. And when you’re feeling overwhelmed you’re dealing with it badly.

Not exactly rocket science I hear you cry (or sob)

You see but maybe you feel it, when you deal with stress badly it not only affects your work, your ability to concentrate it often spirals down to your home life which in turn only makes it worse at work. We all know or have the experience of this.

From the feeling of being anxious to panic attacks, that ‘D’ word ~ Depression and what it is sometimes called social phobia. As usual the list goes on and on and on……………. Our health is affected and being affected badly by stress and seems to lead to being open to every cold, flu, sore throat etc. etc. etc.

Is this depressing enough for you? …………………………….It is me ~ so let’s GO MAKE A DIFFERENCE

because you can.

You can choose to be different and feel the way you want (yippee that’s more like it)

I believe it is your duty to yourself to be able to be the real you, to perform at your best, be successful and above all enjoy doing and being you at home, at play and at work

and you can do this us:

To be in the best and appropriate state

To be able to change your state instantly

To be able to deal with situations positively

To see things for what they are and not what they appear to be

To manage your emotions (yes, we all have them……….. and at work too!)

To deal with perceived criticism

To let go of Anger, Sadness, Fear and Guilt or any other negative emotion

To be able to be relaxed to chill out (hip Eh?)

          In short be at your best at all times and YOU CAN

Your Yule Dude (hop hip talk!)

         Paul