Cambridge Hypnotherapy

When Lindsay approached me here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, asking for help in getting rid of her phobia of lifts (elevators), I couldn’t wait to get started. Working with someone you know, and have known for many years, really gives you a great sense of trust and excitement.

Being a nanny meant Lindsay was often required to take the children she looked after shopping, and you can just imagine how hard it would be to carry two children, a pram, AND all your shopping bags up the stairs or even on an escalator. It was a nightmare, but as much as she wished she could step inside the elevator…. she just couldn’t bring herself to do it!

For the week before our session, Lindsay was adamant that she was not going to test her results and actually get inside an elevator, but would just be happy knowing that if she REALLY had to, she could!! However, this was not even an option for me, I told her that she would have to go to the shopping centre, get inside that lift, and notice how comfortable it was. Even the thought of this used to bring her out in a cold sweat!

At the beginning of the session, she was petrified of elevators still, and even remembering times when she got inside one as a very young child was enough to send her into a state of huge fear and terror.

However, using some wonderful NLP and TimeLine Therapy approaches, after no more than 30 minutes, thinking about the same memories bought back no fear whatsoever, just a feeling of nothingness, which was an amazing experience.

By the end of the session, Lindsay felt so charged and confident it was incredible. She actually said she “wanted to go and find a lift”.

Waving her goodbye, I knew it had been a great session, and when my phone rang 40 minutes later, and I heard her voice on the other end, I just knew what she was about to say. “I’ve just been in a lift!!! I stood and read a poster inside it without even thinking about it!!”, and as if this wasn’t proof enough for her, her next comment certainly was….. “ I want to find another one, this is FUN”.

Another wonderful success story, so if you too have a phobia or fear that is affecting your life, don’t wait any longer…. Call me on 01223 720 120 or email us NOW!

How old do we need to be before we learn to be scared or even have a phobia?

You see, a recent client of ours, we’ll call her Brian because that wasn’t his name, came with what was a phobia of dogs but had it had generalised through to other animals. And that’s what can happen, in order to keep us safe and protected our best friend, our unconscious mind, decides to make sure nothing will harm us and creates a ‘good old’ fear for other things.

So now we not only spend our time thinking of the first thing that scared us but all the other things and times where can be scared. The problem is do we feel safe and protected now with all these thoughts and pictures in our head? Absolutely NOT!

This is a problem but the good news is, whilst we can learn to have a phobia in a millisecond, trigger it without thinking and generalise it to other things we can do the reverse easily. That is ~ learn how not to react in the old way, in fact act in the way you want, trigger it that way without thinking when to and generalise this new, desired way into other areas of your life.

Brian created her phobia really young, about 2 years old, when a dog tried to bite her face. It didn’t but the fear and the need for protection was learnt there and then. The thing is -  are all dogs the same? Would all her life experiences of being okay between now and then be a better resource than the fear and panic created by seeing a dog, way over there?

Of course all dogs are not like that one and of course our whole set of life experiences would be a better resource and that’s what we did when we worked together, I’ll explain  a little more in a minute.

Because this also reminded of one of my first clients, she had a phobia of spiders (notice the use of the word ‘had‘). She was convinced she first experienced this about 7 when she was chased by someone with a spider at school. Not sure what the spider was trying to learn at school? Anyway, with skillful questioning and empathy (well I am writing this and you weren’t there) we discovered this wasn’t the start of this phobia it actually occurred when she was about 3 and seeing her big, lovable Grandad coming down stairs as white as a sheet so scared because he had seen a spider. Her unconscious mind thought if my big lovable Grandad is scared of spiders then I have to be too!

So are these people still afraid are they living their life constantly thinking about what scares them?
You can guess the answer ~ of course they’re not, no way.
We’ve developed through  hypnosis and NLP together with Time Line therapy (tm) Oh! I nearly forgot with ’skillfull questioning and empathy‘ brilliant ways to let go of fears and phobias and, I know it may seem hard to believe, with a lot of laughter. Who says it’s a rule we have to be serious about creating great changes without a bit of fun and feeling good as you do it?

The thing is, when we let go of anything that holds us back we can use what we learn to pleasantly affect other areas of our life. We become more confident, at ease some may say be the real me and it never amazes me how far the ripples of our clients change spread because we know it will.

You are allowed to have the life you dream of.

Paul

When Amanda contacted us at Cambridge Hypnotherapy towards the end of 2009  enquiring into whether Hypnotherapy would work in letting go of her anxiety, and becoming more confident, I couldn’t wait to get in contact with her. I’d seen first hand the things people could achieve and, the way they could become after only 2-3 sessions.

During the initial consultation that we offer to all of our clients, it became apparant that Amanda’s self belief system was severely limiting her behaviours. Over the years I’ve been working with clients, a negative self belief has been the most common cause of most of the issues that have been presented. From alcoholism,
weight management, confidence or anxiety, deep down there is quite often a belief of not being good enough, or not feeling worthy.

Within NLP there is a presupposition that states “All behaviour has a positive intention”. Now I know what you’re thinking….. ” How can not feeling good enough be a positive thing?”

Well, quite simply, this belief acts as a protective barrier, and limits what people do and who they interact with. By keeping them inside their comfort zone, the unconscious mind does its best to ensure that the individual does nothing that they could fail at, or look silly doing. (If this sounds familiar, as if we’re talking about you, why not contact us to find out how easy it is to change now!)

So how did Amanda change, what did she get out of it?

Well to start with there used to be a huge fear of being judged, and a fear of failure that was hugely irrational to the situation she was in. Only 2 sessions later, she had become free form any irrational anxiety, and generally more relaxed. she was sleeping better and waking up feeling fresh and energised. In regards to the old fear of being judged, that had disappeared to a level beyond belief. 
 
Not only has she felt more relaxed in social situations, and feel like things are worth trying, but she actually decided to start writing poetry again, something she hadn’t done for years. As if this wasnt enough of a change in itself, she decided to release them online, for the whole world to see and read.

Click here to read them yourself

Not bad for someone who used to fear being judged, I think you’ll agree.

Luke

Because we believe in our skills, the way we have personally developed the way we work with Hypnosis/NLP/Time Line Therapy, in our clients and their desire to change we have decided to guarantee our hypnotherapy work at Cambridge Hypnotherapy

This all takes effect from Tuesday 9th June 2009

Call us on 01223 720 120 or email us for a complimentary initial consultation and find out what this will mean to you and receive our ‘What will it mean’ Hypnosis CD

Something I found that might inspire you

Joseph Clough, attended hypnosis classes to get over his shyness.

“At one point it got so bad I even struggled to talk to my relatives: if they asked me a question, I could manage ‘yes’ or ‘no’ but that was about it.”

Nowadays, Joseph thinks nothing of talking to hundreds of people at a time, all of them complete strangers. A mind coach famous for working with the stars, including Scottish singer Sandi Thom, he leads workshops designed to help people let go of their fears - and live life to the full.

As Joseph explains, he owes a lot to hypnotism: it was a course in hypnosis that changed his life when he was 17.

Swift to confess he “was not the brightest” at school, Joseph says he needed learning support and toiled to get six C grades at GCSE. For a man who now knows “quite a bit of quantum physics”, it’s proof he’s come a long way.

After a GNVQ in business studies, Joseph took a job in insurance. “Within six months I felt lost,” he remembers. “I lacked purpose, contentment, fulfilment . . .”

Encouraged by his father, Paul, the teenager agreed to do a week-long hypnosis course in Scarborough. “Hypnosis was my dad’s hobby at the time,” explains Joseph, who lives off Histon Road. “The idea was that the course would be a therapeutic process, which would help me find out what I wanted to do with my life.”

“I decided there and then that I wanted to do this,” he recalls. “The course had been life-changing for me and I knew that I wanted to help other people make beneficial changes to their lives too.”

A week later Joseph had quit his insurance job and embarked on his new career as a Master Hypnotist. Going to the States to study Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), he then began to expand his horizons even further.

“If you had conscious control of your life then it would be easy: you would simply let go of all the fears that hold you back,” explains Joseph. “But we don’t have conscious control of these things - so it might be the unconscious mind that is holding us back.”

By taking his clients into a trance state, which he likens to the auto-pilot mode we switch into when driving, Joseph says he accesses the unconscious.

Asking the unconscious mind to move a client’s finger, while giving the conscious mind a counter-command to keep the finger still, he says people are often amazed to see their digits twitch. “A person has to want to go into a trance state,” adds Joseph, who says hypnosis requires real focus from the client.

For the last two years, Joseph has worked with all manner of celebrity clients, from singers and actors to athletes. Because of client confidentiality, he is unable to identify the majority - save for Sandi Thom, whom he describes as “very down-to-earth and friendly”.

“It started by accident,” explains Joseph. “A manager phoned me up about one of his clients and it just took off from there.”

As with his other clients, Joseph helps the celebs address a huge range of issues, maybe a desire to improve their performance or combat a lack of self-confidence. And he also helps them tackle phobias, fears of everything from small spaces to bony wrists.

“I’ve come across a fear of balloons, a fear of tinfoil and - this is quite a common one - emetophobia, which is a fear of being sick, even of being around sick,” says Joseph.

“One client had a fear of her hair being touched because, as a young child, someone had tried to set light to it. It had become quiet debilitating: she didn’t even like going to pubs because, before the smoking ban, she had a fear of the smoke touching her hair and making it fall out.”

Most phobias date from childhood, he explains. “If you see a spider and feel that ‘fight or flight’ reaction, those two things - the spider and the feeling - become connected,” continues Joseph. “What I do is reconnect the spider with a new feeling, say of calm. It can work quickly: twenty-five per cent of people change with one session.”

With the celebrity clients came an increasing amount of media attention: recently challenged by the Daily Express, Joseph was charged with curing three journalists of their fears - including a woman repulsed at the very thought of a veined and bony wrist.

With innumerable CDs and downloads to his name, several websites and a self-help book called Be Your Potential, Joseph’s career is burgeoning. With his father and older brother Luke now trained Master Hypnotists too, he’s part of the family firm Cambridge Hypnotherapy, as well as making client visits and holding workshops .

But, despite his success, Joseph says he didn’t become a mind coach for the sake of making money. Offering a sliding scale of fees, designed to make his sessions accessible to as many people as possible, he says he genuinely wants to help others live happier lives.

“If someone says this stuff doesn’t exist well, in a way, it doesn’t completely exist: it isn’t tangible,” he adds. “But then neither is the soul.”

 For more information about Joseph and his find out about his trainings go to www.josephcloughtrainings.co.uk or www.josephclough.com

To find out about us all at Cambridge Hypnotherapy call call (01223) 720120 or visit http://www.cambridgehypnotherapy.co.uk

Be inspired!

Paul

We are all dealing with stress ~ it’s just that sometimes you do it well and other times badly. And when you’re feeling overwhelmed you’re dealing with it badly.

Not exactly rocket science I hear you cry (or sob)

You see but maybe you feel it, when you deal with stress badly it not only affects your work, your ability to concentrate it often spirals down to your home life which in turn only makes it worse at work. We all know or have the experience of this.

From the feeling of being anxious to panic attacks, that ‘D’ word ~ Depression and what it is sometimes called social phobia. As usual the list goes on and on and on……………. Our health is affected and being affected badly by stress and seems to lead to being open to every cold, flu, sore throat etc. etc. etc.

Is this depressing enough for you? …………………………….It is me ~ so let’s GO MAKE A DIFFERENCE

because you can.

You can choose to be different and feel the way you want (yippee that’s more like it)

I believe it is your duty to yourself to be able to be the real you, to perform at your best, be successful and above all enjoy doing and being you at home, at play and at work

and you can do this us:

To be in the best and appropriate state

To be able to change your state instantly

To be able to deal with situations positively

To see things for what they are and not what they appear to be

To manage your emotions (yes, we all have them……….. and at work too!)

To deal with perceived criticism

To let go of Anger, Sadness, Fear and Guilt or any other negative emotion

To be able to be relaxed to chill out (hip Eh?)

          In short be at your best at all times and YOU CAN

Your Yule Dude (hop hip talk!)

         Paul

We now have a video of the Fear Factor from ITV

all you have to do is follow this link.

Joseph has been amazed at the response he has had from all over the UK and people are travelling from all parts to meet with him to let go of their phobias.

And the best part is we know that when they’re gone the world will be so different for them and the ripples of this change will continue to change other areas of their lives with new opportunities that were always there but seemed invisible.

So to those of you who haven’t experienced this yet why not take the chance to find out how life can really be.

And………………………

for those who want to learn how to do this with others why not look into out NLP and Hypnosis trainings. We’ll be getting our testimonials back from our recent training in Cambridge real soon and I’ll post them here too.

The world can be a brighter, lighter place to live in when you know how and it’s easy!!!!

More soon

It’s to focus on what you want and have it that way……now

Paul

It’s great that Joseph has proved again our skills at eliminating phobias.

Last Friday 21st November Joseph appeared on ITV’s Fear Factor and showed how easily we can help let go of fears and phobias.

Although on the day he worked with about five people time only allowed to show what it meant to two people to be free of their phobia.

We will be receiving the video sections of his great work and will be uploading them soon…….so watch this space for more news.

If you feel you need to let go of your phobia quickly, easily and comfortably (yes I do mean comfortably) contact us now here or call today on 01223 720 120

still thinking about it?

he who waits………..waits and waits and waits and waits………..

do it now you may just find, like so many others, your whole life will change for the better!

Paul

ps

even if you don’t have a phobia but want to learn how to help others why not go to our training site plus there’s free video down loads

feeling stuckA local fisherman started his daily routine of getting his equipment together, putting his waders on and grabbing his fishing setting off for the ocean.

After walking from his truck to the ocean, he started to wade out into the wide sea ahead of him.

He continued wading until he was about 50m out to sea, only anther 10m to go……
All of a sudden, a thought came into his mind….. what danger could there be around him, he started to think about what could go wrong, all the bad possibilities…… and almost immediately his foot felt stuck.

No matter how hard he fought it, he just couldn’t seem to move his foot… he started to panic, his heart rate increased, he started to sweat and his chest got tighter and tighter.

As he glanced down however, he noticed the sea was crystal clear, and there was nothing around him…. his foot was in an open area of soft sand.

He composed himself, took a nice deep breath, relaxed and slowly but surelystarted to move his leg until he found himself walking again.

He still had no idea as to what had previously stopped him on his journey, but he did know that there was no danger, there was no harm, and the only thing that could possibly go wrong is………………..

that he’d catch no fish……

Just a story while I’m out here in Thailand.

Luke

A great article about phobias featuring Joseph Clough, Yes that’s right our Joseph!
Breaking down the barriers of beliefs that say change has to take a long time.
How quick would you like to change anything………….. that long? why wait?
I wonder what wonderful things you could experience now that you have changed~ if you did.
It’s not the destination but the wonderous steps you can enjoy too. Find out more?

Hence
Enjoy every heart beat
Paul