Dealing with Anxiety & Confidence (A Cambridge Hypnotherapy report)
When Amanda contacted us at Cambridge Hypnotherapy towards the end of 2009 enquiring into whether Hypnotherapy would work in letting go of her anxiety, and becoming more confident, I couldn’t wait to get in contact with her. I’d seen first hand the things people could achieve and, the way they could become after only 2-3 sessions.
During the initial consultation that we offer to all of our clients, it became apparant that Amanda’s self belief system was severely limiting her behaviours. Over the years I’ve been working with clients, a negative self belief has been the most common cause of most of the issues that have been presented. From alcoholism,
weight management, confidence or anxiety, deep down there is quite often a belief of not being good enough, or not feeling worthy.
Within NLP there is a presupposition that states “All behaviour has a positive intention”. Now I know what you’re thinking….. ” How can not feeling good enough be a positive thing?”
Well, quite simply, this belief acts as a protective barrier, and limits what people do and who they interact with. By keeping them inside their comfort zone, the unconscious mind does its best to ensure that the individual does nothing that they could fail at, or look silly doing. (If this sounds familiar, as if we’re talking about you, why not contact us to find out how easy it is to change now!)
So how did Amanda change, what did she get out of it?
Well to start with there used to be a huge fear of being judged, and a fear of failure that was hugely irrational to the situation she was in. Only 2 sessions later, she had become free form any irrational anxiety, and generally more relaxed. she was sleeping better and waking up feeling fresh and energised. In regards to the old fear of being judged, that had disappeared to a level beyond belief.
Not only has she felt more relaxed in social situations, and feel like things are worth trying, but she actually decided to start writing poetry again, something she hadn’t done for years. As if this wasnt enough of a change in itself, she decided to release them online, for the whole world to see and read.
Click here to read them yourself
Not bad for someone who used to fear being judged, I think you’ll agree.
Luke
Tags: alcoholism Cambridge, Anxiety Cambridge, confidence Cambridge, fear Cambridge, Hypnotherapy Cambridge, self belief Cambridge, weight management Cambridge
January 14th, 2010 at 11:57 am
Thank you for writing this blog post, it sounds great and of course I am happy for you to write about my experience of hypnotherapy. So much has happened since – my advent series was a success, I have started writing a novel (a long-term dream of mine) and we have sorted out our financial/health worries by deciding to move in with my partner’s parents for a couple of months and then moving up to Lincoln, where houses are cheaper and I can work less hours to help me health wise AND give me more time to do what I love. It is scary, of course it is, but after the hypnotherapy I was able to turn round and say “this is what I need to do and this is what I want to do” and not feel guilty about it. Everybody is happy with it and I cannot believe that by trying to please myself I have pleased them too, after all the time I tried to please everybody and failed!
I truly appreciate the help you gave me and especially this blog post, which will help spread the word about what I am creating these days. Life is finally starting to look a whole lot better, not because of the changes we are making but because of the changes I made in my interpretation of it all.
Amanda
April 30th, 2010 at 3:24 am
I think your post was actually a strong kick off to a potential series of articles about this topic. Most users pretend to know what they’re writing about when it comes to this area and most of the time, very few people actually get it. You seem to understand it though, so I think you need to run with it. Thanks!
April 30th, 2010 at 9:30 am
Super post! Your writing is so fresh in comparison to most other writers. Thanks for writing when you get the chance to, I will be sure to return!