Archive for November, 2012

Dealing with Jealousy with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Friday, November 30th, 2012

Jealousy.

We all seem to suffer a little with jealousy I guess. Most of the time it’s just a passing thought that disappears as quickly as it comes.

We see the effects of jealousy and the green eyed monster in all the tabloids, in the tell tell tales of who did what with whom.

More importantly is the effect of our own jealous part in side us. Or should I say effects because not only do we have those thoughts and internal voices that go round and around inside our heads we also behave in such a way that actually pushes away the one person we want to be with. These behaviors and the way we attempt to communicate with that person actually does what we want least of all ~ to drive them away only to create more inner pictures we make up and feel so bad.

Is Jealousy something that can be eliminated from our relationships? ….. of course but you do need to know how to, shall we say, re-programme your mind and all it’s filters and more importantly understand why we act the way we did. It’s important to understand we do what we do for the very best of intentions (unconsciously) and we need to always honour the intention and change the behaviour to one of trust and love.

We have developed highly successful processes over the years to assist our clients to be free of jealousy and have the relationship they truly want and are able to enjoy.

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Hypnosis & Hypnotherapy in Cambridge ~ can I be hypnotised?

Wednesday, November 14th, 2012

We here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy always work with the intention our clients take full responsibility over their issues and also be responsible for their change and success. We (Luke, Joseph & myself) are purely the facilitators of that change ~ we have just developed processes and ways to use Hypnosis and NLP etc that enable our clients to change quickly and easily.

We take responsibility for being able to facilitate the change and on the extremely rare occasions our clients are unable to make the change they desire it is us not being able to help them not that they are “unhypnotizable” (if that’s actually a word) or able to make the change.

It’s when we hear of clients being told by other therapists that it’s they who are a bad client, cannot be hypnotized we shudder in disbelief.

Here’s an exert of a recent email we received:

“I did see a hypnotherapist a few years back to help me with my depression, she tried to take me back to a place in my childhood where she believed everything changed, after three sessions she told me that I was not able to be hypnotised and it was probably because whatever it was was too hard for even my subconscious to bring up, Im not convinced anything really bad happened to me as a child”

Needless to say we do not work in any, shape or form work like that or speak to our clients in such a way

here is part of our reply:

“As for your previous work, we work in a COMPLETELY different approach and
don’t believe everything goes back to childhood. It sounds very much like an
approach which personally we don’t agree with.

We, unlike many, Specialise in Brief Therapy and Lasting Change. With our
passion using NLP, Time Line Therapy, together with Hypnosis we assist in
helping people who really want to change in a comfortable way.

It is difficult to guess the number of sessions you may need, we believe
this should always remain your choice and the fewer the better is our belief
(normally 2-3 sessions).Many clients have achieved their goals even quicker!
We can explain all at an initial consultation.”

We believe (and also teach in our Trainings) that every client is unique and has all the resources they need to make the change they desire.

We also believe we are probably the best at facilitating quick, easy, comfortable and lasting change.

Who can and can’t be hypnotised?

Wednesday, November 7th, 2012

Recently I had an interesting conversation with someone that got me thinking “I wonder who else feels this way?”

On a night out last week, I was introduced to somebody as a ‘hypnotist’. This usually gets a common covering of the eyes gesture, or them comically looking away so as to prevent eye contact with the whole ‘look into my eyes not around the eyes” lines. However this time it was slightly different, in the sense that the individual I met was a huge psychology fan, who took it upon himself to challenge everything that I believe. Now I don’t mind this, as everyone has a right to their own beliefs, and sometimes we do need to step into other peoples worlds in order to understand where they are coming from.

This individual was adamant that hypnosis involved huge amounts of layers that need to be stripped away, and that a deep level of unconsciousness would be needed in order to implant the desired suggestions which only very few people would be capable of. I found this highly interesting and decided to put across my beliefs, that I thought I would like to share with you all.

Hypnosis is an altered state of consciousness. It doesn’t involve sleep, and it certainly doesn’t involve giving the hypnotist entire control of everything that you do. In theory we have all been hypnotised every single day, just unaware of it as most people don’t know what hypnosis is. What about those times when you start driving, and before you know it your mind wanders off thinking about your tasks for the day, and all of a sudden you notice you have arrived at your destination? Or how about when you start reading a book, and you get 7 or 8 pages in and ask yourself “What have I just read?”. To me these are examples of the state of hypnosis that we all experience regularly, here our unconscious mind takes over and we go into an ‘auto-pilot’ state.

When I hypnotise someone in a session, they are still awake, they are still in control, and if I walked away leaving them like that and a fire alarm went off they would run for the door as quick as anyone else would. Hypnotherapy is a do with process, and involves me working with the clients unconscious mind to achieve their results, whether its losing weight, stopping smoking, letting go of a phobia, or releasing anxiety.

To sum it up, I believe that EVERYONE can be hypnotised, however they can only be hypnotised to do something that want to do, when they want to do it. I can’t MAKE them feel more confident, but i can help part of their mind to understand that they are worthy of everything that they want, and to love who they are.

If you would like to find out more, please feel free to contact us at Cambridge Hypnotherapy by clicking here now 🙂

Luke Clough

Stopping smoking in Cambridge ~ How effective are drugs to stop smoking

Saturday, November 3rd, 2012

I noticed this in the book ‘Tipping Point’ and to be honest was surprised at what I read:
“Glaxo Wellcome has tested the drug – now marketed
under the name Zyban – in heavily addicted smokers
(more than 15 cigarettes a day) and found remarkable
effects. In the study, 23 percent of smokers given a course
of anti-smoking counseling and a placebo quit after four
weeks. Of those given counseling and the nicotine patch,
36 percent had quit after four weeks. The same figure for
Zyban, though, was 49 percent, and of those heavily
addicted smokers given both Zyban and the patch, 58 per-
cent had quit after a month. Interestingly, Zoloft and
Prozac – the serotonin drugs – don’t seem to help
smokers to quit.”

I know there are many percentages of success given to hypnotherapy for stopping smoking and really don’t know if there is an official figure. I do know from our experience using our unique set of processes involving hypnosis we seem to get a remarkable achievement rate ~ well over the test above. I know we offer a back up session with our our one session stop smoking but that in reality is very rarely called upon. Whether this is due to our initial consultation (complimentary of course) where we really find out if we are for you and vice versa. It could be the work we give our clients to do and our pre-session Hypnosis CD. It may be the special unique session itself or even the post session hypnosis CD’s .

In the end we don’t really care which part works best for individual clients because that’s the thing each session is all about our client, their needs, fears and wants. There’s no generic script at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, no set routine reeled out time after time after time as we know some other do.

In reality there’s only one way to find out if you really want to stop for yourself and that’s to get in touch with us and to do it now if it feels right.

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Stoptober has ended!!!

Thursday, November 1st, 2012

It’s here… The first of November… which means that Stoptober has officially ended!

For those of you that don’t know, Stoptober was a public campaign backed by Cancer Research UK and The British Heart foundation set up to encourage mass quitting of smoking for the 28 days of October. Apparently research showed that those who quit smoking for 28 days are 5 times more likely to stay smoke free. This may well be the case, and for those that did participate in Stoptober I’d love to hear your thoughts and to find out whether you have decided to remain a non smoker or whether you lit up at the first opportunity now that your campaign is over.

The problem with setting yourself a time period to stop for, already predisposes that the quitting period will end, which means you are free to go back. It’s like having a holiday in 6 weeks that you want to lose weight for, and deciding to not eat chocolate for those 6 weeks. In your mind, you will probably already be counting down the days until you can have it again, and this my only concern.

It also doesn’t address the reasons as to why you were smoking in the first place. Were you smoking because you found it an escape from stressful situations, or did you actually enjoy it at the time? To me, these are the real issues that need to be dealt with and reframed so that your unconscious mind can programme itself differently and therefore no longer feel the need for cigarettes anymore.

If you would like to find out more about how Cambridge Hypnotherapy can help you stop smoking in only 1 session, contact us here now and we’d be glad to speak with you.

Why stop for 28 days, and battle through the full 28 just to go straight back to it again, when you could stop smoking in only 1 day!

Luke Clough