Do or don’t….. the mind is your sat nav!

July 12th, 2017

What do you want?

When I sit down with clients here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, the very first question that I ask them is “What do you want?”. Pretty simple question, right? Well it seems it, but the majority of people I ask answer it in a different manner. They don’t tell me what they DO want to do, they tell me what they DON’T want to do.

  • “I don’t want to eat chocolate
  • “I don’t want to keep feeling anxious
  • “I want to stop avoiding things I find scary or daunting
  • “I don’t want to use alcohol as a coping mechanism anymore”
  • “I don’t want to feel depressed

Now in each of the above cases every outcome has been stated in a negative manner. It states how they don’t want to be or what they don’t want to do, which doesn’t unfortunately give us any indication as to what they actually want to be like or they want to do instead. Consider the other positive outcomes below as a comparison.

  • “I want to eat healthily”
  • “I want to feel calm”
  • “I want make the most of every possibility that presents itself”
  • “I simply want to use alcohol socially and handle things that bother me with a positive approach”
  • “I want to feel happy”

The unconscious mind is really like a sat nav in some respects. If you want to arrive at a specific destination, you have to input that specific destination. If you input where you don’t want to go, guess what’s going to happen? That’s right, it’ll take you to the exact place that you don’t want to go!

So the next time that you decide to make a change in your life, just take a second to work out what it is that you actually want. If you start out by identifying what it is that you don’t want, don’t panic or feel bad. Just think about what that would allow you to do and you’ll soon start to be on the right path to your goals!

If you would like to find out how we can help you identify your goals and achieve them within only 2-3 sessions, please don’t hesitate to call us on 01223 720120, or contact us here and we’d be glad to help.

Speak soon!

Luke

The Hypno-band topic came up again…..

June 14th, 2017

Effective weight loss vs The Hypnoband

A few weeks ago I had a phone call from a potential client wanting to book sessions for our hypnoband approach for weight loss. The obviously hadn’t ready my blog post here! They were completely surprised when I said I didn’t perform hypnoband sessions, and that personally I didn’t like it or believe in its effectiveness. Please don’t take this to mean that no-one will ever change as a result of it, as some people will. However, the percentage of positive LONG TERM results would be minimal in my opinion.

I’m not going to go over it all again as you can read my thoughts in the blog post above, but here are a few summarised points:

  • Is the client going to BELIEVE they have just had surgery with no scar…. NO
  • Are you letting go go emotional eating… NO
  • Does having a real gastric band fitted guarantee losing weight…. NO
  • Will a gastric band change my desire to exercise…NO
  • Is it any good at all…. NO (obviously only my opinion)

After raising just a few of these points to the enquirer, they quickly booked in for an initial consultation to discuss my approach to weight loss that means no conscious dieting, no real effort and a simple approach to achieve long term results. As it turned out, she had actually worked in clinics offering the real gastric band and had been against them but believed her original thoughts to be the only way to change!

After the first session, one week later, she had lost 4lbs and not had to actively go out and do anything differently. She had naturally found herself saying no to certain foods in certain situations, and had even been motivated to actually join a gym and have her induction already under her belt!

After the second session, only 2 weeks after starting , she was 7 lbs down. The most shocking thing to there was how easy it had been. She imagined having to eradicate every type of food she liked, count calories and try and lump foods into certain point schemes to work out what she could eat! how much grief and effort would that have been!

So what’s stopping you from easily losing weight? Why not contact me here, or call me on 01223 720 120 find out more about being the slimmer you that so far you’ve have only imagined and dreamed of being!

Luke

Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Performance Anxiety

June 8th, 2017

Performance Anxiety and how it affects us.

Where do we start with performance anxiety! This area is so big and covers so many different issues. Here is a list of a few:

  • Exam performance
  • Sporting performance
  • Interview performance
  • Speaking to groups
  • Artistic performance (singing, acting etc)
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The questions marks are for your issue that I haven’t mentioned. In each and every one of the examples above the only thing stopping that person from performing the way that they want to is their perception of what that event means. We could take a mock exam paper home and sit quietly at a table and no doubt answer questions calmly and get the score we deserve. However when put in an exam situation, a great big hall where you are not allowed to talk, surrounded by 50 other nervous individuals we start to read too much into it. There is now also something riding on our results. They mean something compared to a mock exam where it doesn’t matter if we fail… but you didn’t… you passed it… why should this be any different?

Or then there is sporting events. I have worked with professional sportsmen and women from footballers to golfers to snooker players. One of the snooker players I worked with was an amateur who had already achieved one of the highest breaks ever at 151 (possible as his opponent had fouled). He had all the talent and skill and was winning his amateur competitions with ease. However when it came to the tournaments where he could win his pro card it was a different scenario. He was rarely winning and actually losing to people he’d previously never lost to. When asked why, he said he kept thinking about how if he lost then his chance would be gone, where as there was nothing riding on his amateur matches apart from some small prize money.

These really highlight how our levels of anxiety can actually be working against the very thing it is trying to achieve. Anxiety is there to protect us and to help us perform our best, and to a degree this works. The issue is when this anxiety goes above the optimal level and our performance starts to drop. See the graph below to demonstrate this.

Think about your life. What would you do better, more efficiently and more enjoyably if you were remained relaxed and calm? We can help you. Anxiety is the number one thing we work with at Cambridge Hypnotherapy. Over 50% of our clients are here for some sort of anxiety issue. In only 2-3 sessions you too can be free just like they now are.

Contact us now on 01223 720 120 to find out more, or click here to send us an email.

I look forward to hearing from you,

Luke

Can’t vs Won’t

June 2nd, 2017

What, or who, is stopping you?

How often do you look at something and say “I can’t do that”? More often than you’d care to admit would be my guess, am I right?

The old cliché is that there is no such word as can’t, to which I honestly believe has some truth to it. Obviously there are some things we can’t do… for instance I can’t run 100m in less than 10 secs (less than 30 secs may even be debatable these days!!!). No matter how much positive thinking I do, that will always remain something I can’t do.

But then there are those other things that we simply perceive we can’t do. For example:

“I can’t stop drinking once I’ve started…”

“I can’t leave food on the plate…”

“I can’t stop the anxiety from taking over me…”

“I can’t talk in front of groups of people without falling apart…”

Ultimately in every one of those examples above there is only one thing, or person for that matter, stopping them from being able to and that is the individuals themselves! To be even more to the point, each and every one of those statmements is in a excuse as to why someone isn’t living the way they want to. Who else is making them carry on drinking, or force feeding them food, or physically restraining them from talking to groups of people?

If we are in control of these limiting behaviours, why don’t we just change them and start behaving differently? I know it sounds too easy right? But, when you think about it, what is ACTUALLY stopping you? At Cambridge Hypnotherapy our aim is to remove those limiting beliefs easily and effortlessly. In typically no more than 3 sessions (many achieve their results in even less) you too could be regaining the unconscious controls and living your life exactly how you determine, not letting these little beliefs (excuses maybe?) get in the way.

Contact us here or call us on 01223 720 120 and we can talk you through how quickly you can change.

Speak soon!

Luke

Quick results with with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

May 10th, 2017

So how many sessions should hypnotherapy actually take?

I regularly get asked one question relating to something that we state on our website, and that is “how can you help people in only 3 sessions?”. I think one of the biggest problema is that so many people have tried counselling or other routes where sometimes they attend regularly for months after month after month, if not years!

For the life of me I cannot understand why any change should take that long, it sounds absolutely crazy to me! I think one of the only reasons that people think change should take this long is that they are told that is how long it may take. They start to limit their change in accordance with that belief, and how could they possibly be feeling amazing again in only 2 weeks when they still have another 6 months of sessions booked in???

Our genuine belief at Cambridge Hypnotherapy is the fewer the better. I never tell any client how many sessions they need, more that they are in control and they are the only limit to how quickly they can change.

Over the past 11 years of being a full time hypnotherapist, I believe I have honed my approach to be the most systematic and effective way possible. To start with, more often than not we don’t work on what the original enquiry was all about. Most of the time the original enquiry was a symptom, and the reason the client knew they had an issue in their life. Take alcohol consumption for example. It’s probably in the top 3 most common issues people enquire into, yet rarely have I worked on alcohol itself. There is a reason why people drink and that is what we want to address. If the reason changes, the alcohol consumption disappears. If the reason remains, then the alcohol consumption increases back to where it was after a few months or maybe even weeks.

No matter what the issue is from increasing confidence, letting go of anxiety, losing weight or even being free from depression, it is rare that we work with clients for more than 3 sessions. Occasionally a client may come back for a 4th session, however some clients achieve everything they want to in only 2 sessions.

As with anything in life, there is no guarantee that everyone will change with hypnotherapy, however it is rare we get someone go away without achieving their results. In that rarity though it just pushes me harder to find out a reason so that we ensure future clients continue to benefit.

If you would like to find out how you can be free of any of the issues above, or any other issues listed here the please don’t hesitate to contact us.

I look forward to hearing from you soon!

Luke

Hypnotherapy for cocaine addiction

May 4th, 2017

Letting go of cocaine addictions

A few weeks ago I received an enquiry from someone looking to change his behaviour when it came to cocaine taking. According to him, when he split up with a long term partner over 8 years ago, he turned to alcohol mainly to help deal with the breakup and escape from the emotional trauma that came alongside it. To a degree, no doubt it worked at that particular time as he would get so drunk he would forget everything, pass out and have nothing to think about…. Until he awoke anyway!

After a lot of work he managed to get a hold of his drinking and curb it, to the point where if he went out and noticed he had consumed 2-3 drinks he would take himself away from the situation and go home, as he didn’t like to lose control like that anymore. The problem with that though was that when he got home he still needed to deal with his emotions, and he started to slowly increase his cocaine consumption. From only doing it no more than once a month, it became once a week, to the point where he was then going and buying more on a daily basis. He had even found himself purposely going out to the pub to have a few drinks just so he could do some more.

It was time for a change……

During our first session we quickly highlighted the root of his behaviours. Now this doesn’t mean it was anything deep or dark, more so the one thing that when disconnected would allow of all his behaviours to change. Using NLP and hypnosis together we quickly learned the levels of conflict going on when it came to behaviour v intention and allowed them to realign.

At our second session, we used TimeLine Therapy to go back and release the learnings from his past. This meant that he could learn everything from the first event in his past that would allow him to live his future with a different choice and future behaviours.

By only the 3rd session he hadn’t taken any cocaine, or thought about taking cocaine even when being around it. In his mind, he was free form his cocaine addiction.

That was it! 3 sessions and he was free from his old behaviours. I spoke to him a few days ago after about 6 weeks and he was still enjoying life and making all of the right choices on an unconscious level where he didn’t even need to think about it.

What would you like to change that quickly? Why not contact us here and I’ll show you how we can do it!

Speak soon,

Luke

 

What to expect from Hypnotherapy

June 22nd, 2016

A short podcast (audio) about hypnotherapy

A little while ago, through my personal development podcast, I decided to give a brief insight of what to expect or look for when considering hypnotherapy – well from my point of view, which is all I can give. I wanted people to know that whatever your issues, Hypnosis, NLP and Time Line Therapy(TM) can usually help and with such a great effect. No one should put up with not feeling how they want to feel  and so few know what’s really available from the wealth of good hypnotherapists around.

For some, you may be considering going to a hypnotherapist. Well, I thought you may want to have a heads up on to what to look for. These are only my thoughts and opinions so they are obviously based on what I have experienced or learnt along the way and I know there are other thoughts and opinions – I can only share you mine.

Most think of stopping smoking or weight loss when thinking of working with a hypnotherapist and in my experience these are the smaller percentages of client base. Anxiety, panic, depression, OCD, social phobia. PTSD, you fill in the blank etc are all emotional states and behaviours that part and parcel of what are helped overcome.

The most important thing to remember is – you’re NOT broken and do NOT need curing! There are so many great hypnotherapists around doing great work and helping people getting back on track. Go seek one out and make great changes to your life.

You deserve to create the life you wish for and getting a little help just makes that a little quicker.

Here’s the podcast

Shine brightly
Paul

Paul’s free Personal development podcast

December 19th, 2015

Personal Development Unplugged

If you haven’t yet listened to these podcasts and you’re interested in making your life better then you have missed a treat

You can start here if you want or go to Paul’s website www.paulclough.co.uk and see the current podcast along wth all the rest

There’s so much to follow with free hypnosis tracks

the best way is to subscribe to iTunes and get them downloads as new ones come along

Just search for Paul Clough in the podcast section

Remember you can also find them on Paul’s web site ~ just click on this bold bit www.paulclouh.co.uk

Here’s a list of whats been uploaded to date:

#2 Dealing with Anxiety
#3
Coping with Grief

#4 Letting go of Limiting Beliefs and free hypnosis track

#5 Learning from a different perspective

#6 Regaining That Loving Feeling and free hypnosis track

#7 recording and remembering what you enjoy

#8 Paused for thought and free hypnosis track

There’s also shorter ones call the Five Minute Quickie when you need a quick fix

You can go there by clicking here and see them all direct on iTunes and subscribe and get each new podcast as they are issued.

learning to forget people with hypnotherapy

July 27th, 2015

Changing the way you remember with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

We love to share our clients successes and their concerns. If we can help you see and feel the benefits of changing the way you feel to a way that you want feel and know how quick and easy it can be then it makes our job with you easier and quicker.

Here’s something that we think will give you the confidence to ask us how we can help you and knowing that we can……help you.

Last week I worked with another wonderful client. From the initial consultation she said she wanted to forget someone from her past – completely. No memory of that person, as if they never existed.

So let’s rewind to the initial consultation and this request. Could I or indeed anyone make a person disappear from your memories or past? I actually feel it probably is possible but this is where my training and some may call it code of ethics or simply best practise; because you see just because something may be possible doesn’t make it right when you consider the implications, the effects.

You see, consider if we did this together what would people think of my client when she denied ever having been with this person? What would my client be saying to herself when they saw photographs of the two of them together? You’re mad or “am I going mad?”

Even more important to me and the way I work is if we learn from every experience we won’t make the same mistake again. Imagine this client meeting the same type of person again and again and being totally unfulfilled. Oh…….. Isn’t that what some people actually do and you hear them saying “ I just don’t seem to meet someone different and end up with same old same old!” what an outlook to have!!

So……….although this client was continuing to question their want to have this person disappear from their memories I stood fast and continued to explain and reframe the need to learn from our experiences and that in some way that person taught us something valuable, only valuable however, if we choose to learn and use those learnings in the future.

So what happened??????

One session, yes in only one session this client did a fantastic job of working with me and let go of all those negative feelings. Feeling different in the therapy office/room is one thing but to have the changes in the real world outside is the only real test to know the work we have done together has really worked. So one week later having really gone out and tested our work, their work really as they have to do all the work, 100% result and usually happens other areas of their life had begun to get better too. A double/triple whammie (however you spell that??)

As usual if you wish to experience changes like these, or any other for that matter get in touch and come along for one of our complimentary consultations and find out how you can……..change now!!!!

Call 01223 720 120

Or email via our contact page on the website by clicking here

 

Paul

 

 

 

 

 

How long to let go of bad emotions ~Cambridge Hypnotherapy

March 7th, 2015

Clearing negative emotions with NLP, Time Line Therapy(TM) and Hypnosis

I am continually amazed how long we (that’s all of us) can hold onto old negative emotions. Hold on to them even when we think they’re gone. How do I know this? I’ll tell you in a minute.

The thing is these negative emotions continue to affect our quality of life and the decisions we make. Like a snow ball, they start of very small and as life rolls on they get bigger and bigger and for some then it’s just overwhelm.

So how do I know this? Time Line Therapy™ that’s how. Now this probably makes no sense to you at all, unless you know about TLT.

So let’s make a little sense out of this. When working with a client who is suffering from anxiety, which is really fear of what has happened in the past will repeat in the future, we may use Time Line Therapy ™ processes.

A typical session would also include dealing with anger and sadness and although nearly every clients says well I’m not really an angry or sad person, when we look a little deeper we find memories from years ago that still hold those emotions. Because the processes work so quickly, normally around 5-10 minutes for each emotion, we can really clear the entire unconscious blocks that were all part of the problem and different processes may not so cleanly achieve. That’s what and why I like Time Line Therapy™, it’s thorough, quick and my clients are always comfortable in the change process.

Just so you know why they remain comfortable ~ it’s because my clients never go to any negatively charged memory and relive it. I know some therapist have the client do this but I don’t agree with this and I won’t let my clients be anything other than comfortable when making changes. In fact all of here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy we all have the same philosophy to make change, whatever or however bad the initial feelings our clients are experiencing it isn’t necessary to feel bad when we let them go and we won’t let our clients re-experience what caused the problem, we know too many better ways to work with clients.

Here’s a little tester:

Think of a specific memory of anger that when you think of it you can rate that anger out of 10. 10 being totally angry and 0 being completely neutral.

Have you done that? If you have and it’s not a 0 then you’re carrying around anger and it will affect what and how you act or react to greater or lesser degrees. If you notice how long ago that memory was and it may be years then it is probably time to let it go.

Come and have chat with us personally by either calling us on 01223 720 120 or emailing via the contact form by clicking HERE.