Being specific with what you want…..

November 26th, 2017

When it comes to working with clients, we at Cambridge Hypnotherapy want to be super specific with the issue that we are working on. We don’t want to fall into the trap of lumping you into a category, we want to target your specific goals and help you achieve them in as few sessions as possible.

You are unique, and so are your goals.

This was highlighted to me recently when I met a client wanting to let go of his relationship with cocaine. He had previously worked with another hypnotherapist who had constantly spoken about how he “would refrain from taking drugs” and “never take drugs again”. This didn’t sit right with that particular client as the term ‘drugs’ was too much of a blanket term. This particular client was also a cannabis user as they had a severe medical condition and (rightly or wrongly) they enjoyed taking cannabis as a form of relief from their crippling and painful symptoms. Every time they heard the hypnotherapist talk about drugs, they just wanted to scream “STOP SAYING DRUGS” at them.

Here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, the beginning of the first session is undertaking a personal history which will outline exactly what it is that you want to achieve in as specific a way as possible. This may take 10 minutes or it may take 30 minutes. We will not cut this short as it is essential that it is done properly. Then, and only then, will we start working on allowing your unconscious mind to achieve it using Hypnosis, NLP and TimeLine Therapy.

So lets start being specific…

  • Specifically what do you want to achieve?
  • How specifically would you like to feel/behave?
  • When specifically would you like to have it?
  • When specifically can we get you started?

Don’t keep thinking about what or how great you could be, contact us now by clicking here, or by calling us on 01223 730 120 and I’ll do my best to get you those results n only 2-3 sessions.

stopping smoking with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

November 21st, 2017

Stop smoking can be easier than you imagined

Over the past few weeks I’ve seen a large number of new enquiries from people wishing to stop smoking with Cambridge Hypnotherapy. I always find it interesting when we get a rush of clients all wanting the same thing, maybe they’ve all seen a tv programme that I’ve missed. Or is it just coincidence? Who knows!

Stopping smoking can be very difficult for people, but does it have to be? In my opinion, no. It can be ridiculously easy when approached in the correct manner. Smoking is not a physical addiction in my opinion and the practical evidence for this I think backs me up. A woman can fall pregnant and instantly throw all of her cigarettes away and quit on the spot. A man could be admitted to hospital where they are unable to get outside and as smoking is not an option they tend to find that they don’t even think about smoking. Maybe someone who is a heavy smoker even jumps on a plane to Australia for the best part of 24 hours and again, as smoking is not permitted, they don’t even realise that they haven’t thought about it for that entire time. If all of these people were physically addicted to nicotine then this couldn’t happen. And ultimately what about those who start with nicotine patches yet throw them away and go back to smoking? Surely the patch would have done the job if nicotine was the hit they needed?

So how can we help? Well we can help with the psychological aspects of smoking. From those times were someone may smoke more because they are bored, or maybe suffering with large loads of stress to those times when they are just down the pub socialising with their friends, we can help you change your mindset so that the idea of smoking is now easily outweighed by the desire to remain a non smoker.

You too can become a non smoker in only ONE session. Simply contact us by clicking here or call us on 01223 7201 20 and we can let you know how easy it is for you and get you booked in for a FREE initial consultation.

Speak soon,

Luke

The need for results

November 14th, 2017

Referrals rule!

Here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, we are one of the very few, if not the only, full time hypnotherapy centres in and around Cambridge. If you search on Google for hypnotherapists in Cambridge, you will come across no end of websites advertising their services. What a website doesn’t let you find out about is the person behind it, how they think, how they work, what makes them special at what they do.

So how do we differ? Well quite simply as a full time therapy centre, we rely on results! If we don’t see clients we don’t earn a living as we don’t have a 9-5 income to fall back on. We need our clients achieving their results as quickly and as easily as possible because that will make them go and tell their family and friends about their whole experience here with us. Every business knows that referrals are the greatest source of new clients, and the vast majority of our clients are in fact referrals. This is great for us as it shows us that what we are doing is working. Its also great for the new enquirer as they are already sold on the potential opportunities available to them simply by opening up their minds. At the end of their day, if their friend or loved one can change, why can’t they?

Now I know this is very easy to write about, but we live by what we say. We offer all of our clients a complimentary consultation where you can come along for 20 minutes and find out more about us completely FREE of charge and with no obligations. You can ask any questions you want, get a better idea as to how we work and most importantly make sure that you feel comfortable working with the therapist that you will be working with. From there you can either book your sessions when you see that here is the easiest place for you to change, or you can simply walk away and think about it. What do you have to lose?

If you would like to change your life, don’t hesitate in contacting us now by clicking here, or calling us on 01223 720 120 and we’ll get you booked in as soon as we can.

I look forward to hearing from you,

Luke

 

Do or don’t….. the mind is your sat nav!

July 12th, 2017

What do you want?

When I sit down with clients here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, the very first question that I ask them is “What do you want?”. Pretty simple question, right? Well it seems it, but the majority of people I ask answer it in a different manner. They don’t tell me what they DO want to do, they tell me what they DON’T want to do.

  • “I don’t want to eat chocolate
  • “I don’t want to keep feeling anxious
  • “I want to stop avoiding things I find scary or daunting
  • “I don’t want to use alcohol as a coping mechanism anymore”
  • “I don’t want to feel depressed

Now in each of the above cases every outcome has been stated in a negative manner. It states how they don’t want to be or what they don’t want to do, which doesn’t unfortunately give us any indication as to what they actually want to be like or they want to do instead. Consider the other positive outcomes below as a comparison.

  • “I want to eat healthily”
  • “I want to feel calm”
  • “I want make the most of every possibility that presents itself”
  • “I simply want to use alcohol socially and handle things that bother me with a positive approach”
  • “I want to feel happy”

The unconscious mind is really like a sat nav in some respects. If you want to arrive at a specific destination, you have to input that specific destination. If you input where you don’t want to go, guess what’s going to happen? That’s right, it’ll take you to the exact place that you don’t want to go!

So the next time that you decide to make a change in your life, just take a second to work out what it is that you actually want. If you start out by identifying what it is that you don’t want, don’t panic or feel bad. Just think about what that would allow you to do and you’ll soon start to be on the right path to your goals!

If you would like to find out how we can help you identify your goals and achieve them within only 2-3 sessions, please don’t hesitate to call us on 01223 720120, or contact us here and we’d be glad to help.

Speak soon!

Luke

The Hypno-band topic came up again…..

June 14th, 2017

Effective weight loss vs The Hypnoband

A few weeks ago I had a phone call from a potential client wanting to book sessions for our hypnoband approach for weight loss. The obviously hadn’t ready my blog post here! They were completely surprised when I said I didn’t perform hypnoband sessions, and that personally I didn’t like it or believe in its effectiveness. Please don’t take this to mean that no-one will ever change as a result of it, as some people will. However, the percentage of positive LONG TERM results would be minimal in my opinion.

I’m not going to go over it all again as you can read my thoughts in the blog post above, but here are a few summarised points:

  • Is the client going to BELIEVE they have just had surgery with no scar…. NO
  • Are you letting go go emotional eating… NO
  • Does having a real gastric band fitted guarantee losing weight…. NO
  • Will a gastric band change my desire to exercise…NO
  • Is it any good at all…. NO (obviously only my opinion)

After raising just a few of these points to the enquirer, they quickly booked in for an initial consultation to discuss my approach to weight loss that means no conscious dieting, no real effort and a simple approach to achieve long term results. As it turned out, she had actually worked in clinics offering the real gastric band and had been against them but believed her original thoughts to be the only way to change!

After the first session, one week later, she had lost 4lbs and not had to actively go out and do anything differently. She had naturally found herself saying no to certain foods in certain situations, and had even been motivated to actually join a gym and have her induction already under her belt!

After the second session, only 2 weeks after starting , she was 7 lbs down. The most shocking thing to there was how easy it had been. She imagined having to eradicate every type of food she liked, count calories and try and lump foods into certain point schemes to work out what she could eat! how much grief and effort would that have been!

So what’s stopping you from easily losing weight? Why not contact me here, or call me on 01223 720 120 find out more about being the slimmer you that so far you’ve have only imagined and dreamed of being!

Luke

Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Performance Anxiety

June 8th, 2017

Performance Anxiety and how it affects us.

Where do we start with performance anxiety! This area is so big and covers so many different issues. Here is a list of a few:

  • Exam performance
  • Sporting performance
  • Interview performance
  • Speaking to groups
  • Artistic performance (singing, acting etc)
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The questions marks are for your issue that I haven’t mentioned. In each and every one of the examples above the only thing stopping that person from performing the way that they want to is their perception of what that event means. We could take a mock exam paper home and sit quietly at a table and no doubt answer questions calmly and get the score we deserve. However when put in an exam situation, a great big hall where you are not allowed to talk, surrounded by 50 other nervous individuals we start to read too much into it. There is now also something riding on our results. They mean something compared to a mock exam where it doesn’t matter if we fail… but you didn’t… you passed it… why should this be any different?

Or then there is sporting events. I have worked with professional sportsmen and women from footballers to golfers to snooker players. One of the snooker players I worked with was an amateur who had already achieved one of the highest breaks ever at 151 (possible as his opponent had fouled). He had all the talent and skill and was winning his amateur competitions with ease. However when it came to the tournaments where he could win his pro card it was a different scenario. He was rarely winning and actually losing to people he’d previously never lost to. When asked why, he said he kept thinking about how if he lost then his chance would be gone, where as there was nothing riding on his amateur matches apart from some small prize money.

These really highlight how our levels of anxiety can actually be working against the very thing it is trying to achieve. Anxiety is there to protect us and to help us perform our best, and to a degree this works. The issue is when this anxiety goes above the optimal level and our performance starts to drop. See the graph below to demonstrate this.

Think about your life. What would you do better, more efficiently and more enjoyably if you were remained relaxed and calm? We can help you. Anxiety is the number one thing we work with at Cambridge Hypnotherapy. Over 50% of our clients are here for some sort of anxiety issue. In only 2-3 sessions you too can be free just like they now are.

Contact us now on 01223 720 120 to find out more, or click here to send us an email.

I look forward to hearing from you,

Luke

Can’t vs Won’t

June 2nd, 2017

What, or who, is stopping you?

How often do you look at something and say “I can’t do that”? More often than you’d care to admit would be my guess, am I right?

The old cliché is that there is no such word as can’t, to which I honestly believe has some truth to it. Obviously there are some things we can’t do… for instance I can’t run 100m in less than 10 secs (less than 30 secs may even be debatable these days!!!). No matter how much positive thinking I do, that will always remain something I can’t do.

But then there are those other things that we simply perceive we can’t do. For example:

“I can’t stop drinking once I’ve started…”

“I can’t leave food on the plate…”

“I can’t stop the anxiety from taking over me…”

“I can’t talk in front of groups of people without falling apart…”

Ultimately in every one of those examples above there is only one thing, or person for that matter, stopping them from being able to and that is the individuals themselves! To be even more to the point, each and every one of those statmements is in a excuse as to why someone isn’t living the way they want to. Who else is making them carry on drinking, or force feeding them food, or physically restraining them from talking to groups of people?

If we are in control of these limiting behaviours, why don’t we just change them and start behaving differently? I know it sounds too easy right? But, when you think about it, what is ACTUALLY stopping you? At Cambridge Hypnotherapy our aim is to remove those limiting beliefs easily and effortlessly. In typically no more than 3 sessions (many achieve their results in even less) you too could be regaining the unconscious controls and living your life exactly how you determine, not letting these little beliefs (excuses maybe?) get in the way.

Contact us here or call us on 01223 720 120 and we can talk you through how quickly you can change.

Speak soon!

Luke

Quick results with with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

May 10th, 2017

So how many sessions should hypnotherapy actually take?

I regularly get asked one question relating to something that we state on our website, and that is “how can you help people in only 3 sessions?”. I think one of the biggest problema is that so many people have tried counselling or other routes where sometimes they attend regularly for months after month after month, if not years!

For the life of me I cannot understand why any change should take that long, it sounds absolutely crazy to me! I think one of the only reasons that people think change should take this long is that they are told that is how long it may take. They start to limit their change in accordance with that belief, and how could they possibly be feeling amazing again in only 2 weeks when they still have another 6 months of sessions booked in???

Our genuine belief at Cambridge Hypnotherapy is the fewer the better. I never tell any client how many sessions they need, more that they are in control and they are the only limit to how quickly they can change.

Over the past 11 years of being a full time hypnotherapist, I believe I have honed my approach to be the most systematic and effective way possible. To start with, more often than not we don’t work on what the original enquiry was all about. Most of the time the original enquiry was a symptom, and the reason the client knew they had an issue in their life. Take alcohol consumption for example. It’s probably in the top 3 most common issues people enquire into, yet rarely have I worked on alcohol itself. There is a reason why people drink and that is what we want to address. If the reason changes, the alcohol consumption disappears. If the reason remains, then the alcohol consumption increases back to where it was after a few months or maybe even weeks.

No matter what the issue is from increasing confidence, letting go of anxiety, losing weight or even being free from depression, it is rare that we work with clients for more than 3 sessions. Occasionally a client may come back for a 4th session, however some clients achieve everything they want to in only 2 sessions.

As with anything in life, there is no guarantee that everyone will change with hypnotherapy, however it is rare we get someone go away without achieving their results. In that rarity though it just pushes me harder to find out a reason so that we ensure future clients continue to benefit.

If you would like to find out how you can be free of any of the issues above, or any other issues listed here the please don’t hesitate to contact us.

I look forward to hearing from you soon!

Luke

Hypnotherapy for cocaine addiction

May 4th, 2017

Letting go of cocaine addictions

A few weeks ago I received an enquiry from someone looking to change his behaviour when it came to cocaine taking. According to him, when he split up with a long term partner over 8 years ago, he turned to alcohol mainly to help deal with the breakup and escape from the emotional trauma that came alongside it. To a degree, no doubt it worked at that particular time as he would get so drunk he would forget everything, pass out and have nothing to think about…. Until he awoke anyway!

After a lot of work he managed to get a hold of his drinking and curb it, to the point where if he went out and noticed he had consumed 2-3 drinks he would take himself away from the situation and go home, as he didn’t like to lose control like that anymore. The problem with that though was that when he got home he still needed to deal with his emotions, and he started to slowly increase his cocaine consumption. From only doing it no more than once a month, it became once a week, to the point where he was then going and buying more on a daily basis. He had even found himself purposely going out to the pub to have a few drinks just so he could do some more.

It was time for a change……

During our first session we quickly highlighted the root of his behaviours. Now this doesn’t mean it was anything deep or dark, more so the one thing that when disconnected would allow of all his behaviours to change. Using NLP and hypnosis together we quickly learned the levels of conflict going on when it came to behaviour v intention and allowed them to realign.

At our second session, we used TimeLine Therapy to go back and release the learnings from his past. This meant that he could learn everything from the first event in his past that would allow him to live his future with a different choice and future behaviours.

By only the 3rd session he hadn’t taken any cocaine, or thought about taking cocaine even when being around it. In his mind, he was free form his cocaine addiction.

That was it! 3 sessions and he was free from his old behaviours. I spoke to him a few days ago after about 6 weeks and he was still enjoying life and making all of the right choices on an unconscious level where he didn’t even need to think about it.

What would you like to change that quickly? Why not contact us here and I’ll show you how we can do it!

Speak soon,

Luke

 

What to expect from Hypnotherapy

June 22nd, 2016

A short podcast (audio) about hypnotherapy

A little while ago, through my personal development podcast, I decided to give a brief insight of what to expect or look for when considering hypnotherapy – well from my point of view, which is all I can give. I wanted people to know that whatever your issues, Hypnosis, NLP and Time Line Therapy(TM) can usually help and with such a great effect. No one should put up with not feeling how they want to feel  and so few know what’s really available from the wealth of good hypnotherapists around.

For some, you may be considering going to a hypnotherapist. Well, I thought you may want to have a heads up on to what to look for. These are only my thoughts and opinions so they are obviously based on what I have experienced or learnt along the way and I know there are other thoughts and opinions – I can only share you mine.

Most think of stopping smoking or weight loss when thinking of working with a hypnotherapist and in my experience these are the smaller percentages of client base. Anxiety, panic, depression, OCD, social phobia. PTSD, you fill in the blank etc are all emotional states and behaviours that part and parcel of what are helped overcome.

The most important thing to remember is – you’re NOT broken and do NOT need curing! There are so many great hypnotherapists around doing great work and helping people getting back on track. Go seek one out and make great changes to your life.

You deserve to create the life you wish for and getting a little help just makes that a little quicker.

Here’s the podcast

Shine brightly
Paul