Why I refuse to help people stop drinking alcohol

June 27th, 2018

“I want you to carry on drinking alcohol…. even go get drunk!”

Now I appreciate that sounds like a crazy thing to say to someone who is coming to see me because they want to stop drinking alcohol. It certainly puts a confused look on the majority of my clients faces when I say it to them! But there is logic behind it, and I’ll share that with you now.

Changing peoples relationship with alcohol is probably the joint second most common issue that I work with here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, alongside food issues and right behind anxiety related issues. This means that over the past 12 years I have gained a lot of experience about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to changing those mindsets.

Many of those I have worked with have been to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, were everyone stands up and introduces themselves and admitting to being an alcoholic. They will more often than not say they have been winning their battle for the past how ever many years. Lets break that down. Firstly… what a label to give to themselves! Who said they were an alcoholic in the first place? Drinking alcohol is a behaviour and not their identity. Secondly…. If you’ve been battling something for that many years, in my opinion you’re not winning anything! You’re fighting something everyday which is exhausting and stops people enjoying their life they way that they should. Also, if you don’t ever drink again are you truly in control over alcohol? No, alcohol is still dictating how you behave in certain situations.

So, how would someone behave in an ideal way if they were in control over alcohol? How about these examples:

  • not instantly turn to alcohol as an escapism tool when stressed/upset?
  • not finish the bottle of wine they have opened just because there is some left?
  • to get drunk at a wedding, because its ok to do so knowing the event warrants the behaviour
  • have a glass of wine with a meal because it compliments it

These are just a few examples of the feedback we are given here from clients who successfully change their behaviour after working with us for no more than 2-3 sessions.

If you have something that you would like to change, and want your life to become as great as it deserves to be, why not contact us by clicking here or calling us on 01223720120 to arrange a complimentary initial consultation.

See you all soon,

Luke

 

Know your Why…..

April 6th, 2018

We all make one very simple and fundamental mistake when we focus on something we want to achieve. What we want is not the important thing that we need to be focusing on, but I can guarantee you that that means the vast majority of you are focusing on the wrong thing! For example, how many of us want money, to have lots of money in the bank? Most people you ask this question to will answer of course they do. However they are wrong, Just having money in the bank wouldn’t change a thing in their life. What they really want is what money can do for them. Who wants to hire a plumber? No-one… but we all want the nice bathroom that they can install for us. Who wants a business coach? No-one… but most people would like the plan that they can put in place to help us build up our own business and have the work/life balance that we have mostly been craving. Who wants to lose weight? No-one, we want the health benefits and the confidence that having a great body will give us

So the first thing to think about is WHAT exactly do you want? Once you know WHAT you want, the next thing is to think about WHY? What is your WHY? Why do you want money in the bank? Why do you want to work for yourself? Why do you want out of your current job? Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to stop drinking? It sounds stupidly simple, but as soon as you know your WHY, the HOW becomes the easy bit? The WHY will be your motivating factor that is going to drive you towards achieving your goals, and make sure that nothing is going to stop you from getting there.

So, if you want to change something in your life, but don’t have the incentives or motivation, why not contact us now by clicking here or call us on 01223 720120, it’s easier than you think 🙂

Speak soon,

Luke

What are you in control of?

March 29th, 2018

Regain control of your life


A lot of enquiries we get are from people that feel they are stuck in a situation that they don’t have any control over. The first thing I want everyone to understand is that we are ALWAYS in control. No matter whether it be an issue within a relationship, with food, alcohol, a job situation or in fact anything, we are always the one in control. Maybe we’re not in control of the situation, but we are always in control over how we react to it.

So how do we help you do that? Using advanced levels of NLP, Time Line Therapy and Hypnosis, we can help your unconscious mind develop new thought patterns that allow you to process information differently. We will also allow your mind to determine the best new reaction and find the resources necessary for your mind to implement it. That way your mind will choose a new reaction that works and not just pick a random one out of thin air.

So how does this differ from other therapies and approaches? The simple answer is massively! We are not going to look at teaching you coping strategies, or teach you how to mange your problem behaviour as this is simply papering over the cracks. That would also mean that you are learning how to live with your problem for the rest of your life which would be exhausting and also more than likely unmaintainable.

The beauty of our approach is that it is also very quick yet life lasting, Rarely do we work with clients for more than 3 sessions, and some even less.

If you would like to find out how Hypnotherapy can help you change your mindset about anything, call us now on 01223 720 120, or you can email us here!

Speak soon,

Luke

 

Weight loss the easy way

March 28th, 2018

NEW MONEY BACK OFFER….

One of the most common questions we get is do we work with weight loss and seeing clients wanting to lose weight with hypnotherapy. It’s probably the joint second most common issue that we work with after anxiety.

Over the last 12 years of being a hypnotherapist I have personally built an amazing system where we don’t focus on losing weight. We look at changing our clients’ relationship with food and eating habits, which will obviously have the desired result of losing weight.

The first thing we look at is the reasons that people eat, and then start to realign certain beliefs. We deal with the conflict between the perceived positive intention and the actual resulting consequence. For example, many people eat when they are sad and down as a way to cheer themselves up, however then they regret it and feel even worse. Or maybe they eat because they are bored, and then realise that they have wasted 2 hours being bored sat on the sofa with a packet of biscuits.

The second angle is to change clients’ habits and the eliminate times where they eat simply due to the fact it’s what they’ve always done. This is where they need to use the occasional conscious will power. To make this as simple and easy as possible we have started using a plan which takes all thought out of the equation. For those who go down this route we also now GUARANTEE you will lose weight during our sessions or you get your money back. What do you have to lose, except weight?

So if you would like to finally lose weight once and for all, contact us now by clicking here, or call us on 01223 720 1220.

We look forward to hearing from you soon.

Speak soon,

Luke

Being specific with what you want…..

November 26th, 2017

When it comes to working with clients, we at Cambridge Hypnotherapy want to be super specific with the issue that we are working on. We don’t want to fall into the trap of lumping you into a category, we want to target your specific goals and help you achieve them in as few sessions as possible.

You are unique, and so are your goals.

This was highlighted to me recently when I met a client wanting to let go of his relationship with cocaine. He had previously worked with another hypnotherapist who had constantly spoken about how he “would refrain from taking drugs” and “never take drugs again”. This didn’t sit right with that particular client as the term ‘drugs’ was too much of a blanket term. This particular client was also a cannabis user as they had a severe medical condition and (rightly or wrongly) they enjoyed taking cannabis as a form of relief from their crippling and painful symptoms. Every time they heard the hypnotherapist talk about drugs, they just wanted to scream “STOP SAYING DRUGS” at them.

Here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, the beginning of the first session is undertaking a personal history which will outline exactly what it is that you want to achieve in as specific a way as possible. This may take 10 minutes or it may take 30 minutes. We will not cut this short as it is essential that it is done properly. Then, and only then, will we start working on allowing your unconscious mind to achieve it using Hypnosis, NLP and TimeLine Therapy.

So lets start being specific…

  • Specifically what do you want to achieve?
  • How specifically would you like to feel/behave?
  • When specifically would you like to have it?
  • When specifically can we get you started?

Don’t keep thinking about what or how great you could be, contact us now by clicking here, or by calling us on 01223 730 120 and I’ll do my best to get you those results n only 2-3 sessions.

stopping smoking with Cambridge Hypnotherapy

November 21st, 2017

Stop smoking can be easier than you imagined

Over the past few weeks I’ve seen a large number of new enquiries from people wishing to stop smoking with Cambridge Hypnotherapy. I always find it interesting when we get a rush of clients all wanting the same thing, maybe they’ve all seen a tv programme that I’ve missed. Or is it just coincidence? Who knows!

Stopping smoking can be very difficult for people, but does it have to be? In my opinion, no. It can be ridiculously easy when approached in the correct manner. Smoking is not a physical addiction in my opinion and the practical evidence for this I think backs me up. A woman can fall pregnant and instantly throw all of her cigarettes away and quit on the spot. A man could be admitted to hospital where they are unable to get outside and as smoking is not an option they tend to find that they don’t even think about smoking. Maybe someone who is a heavy smoker even jumps on a plane to Australia for the best part of 24 hours and again, as smoking is not permitted, they don’t even realise that they haven’t thought about it for that entire time. If all of these people were physically addicted to nicotine then this couldn’t happen. And ultimately what about those who start with nicotine patches yet throw them away and go back to smoking? Surely the patch would have done the job if nicotine was the hit they needed?

So how can we help? Well we can help with the psychological aspects of smoking. From those times were someone may smoke more because they are bored, or maybe suffering with large loads of stress to those times when they are just down the pub socialising with their friends, we can help you change your mindset so that the idea of smoking is now easily outweighed by the desire to remain a non smoker.

You too can become a non smoker in only ONE session. Simply contact us by clicking here or call us on 01223 7201 20 and we can let you know how easy it is for you and get you booked in for a FREE initial consultation.

Speak soon,

Luke

The need for results

November 14th, 2017

Referrals rule!

Here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, we are one of the very few, if not the only, full time hypnotherapy centres in and around Cambridge. If you search on Google for hypnotherapists in Cambridge, you will come across no end of websites advertising their services. What a website doesn’t let you find out about is the person behind it, how they think, how they work, what makes them special at what they do.

So how do we differ? Well quite simply as a full time therapy centre, we rely on results! If we don’t see clients we don’t earn a living as we don’t have a 9-5 income to fall back on. We need our clients achieving their results as quickly and as easily as possible because that will make them go and tell their family and friends about their whole experience here with us. Every business knows that referrals are the greatest source of new clients, and the vast majority of our clients are in fact referrals. This is great for us as it shows us that what we are doing is working. Its also great for the new enquirer as they are already sold on the potential opportunities available to them simply by opening up their minds. At the end of their day, if their friend or loved one can change, why can’t they?

Now I know this is very easy to write about, but we live by what we say. We offer all of our clients a complimentary consultation where you can come along for 20 minutes and find out more about us completely FREE of charge and with no obligations. You can ask any questions you want, get a better idea as to how we work and most importantly make sure that you feel comfortable working with the therapist that you will be working with. From there you can either book your sessions when you see that here is the easiest place for you to change, or you can simply walk away and think about it. What do you have to lose?

If you would like to change your life, don’t hesitate in contacting us now by clicking here, or calling us on 01223 720 120 and we’ll get you booked in as soon as we can.

I look forward to hearing from you,

Luke

 

Do or don’t….. the mind is your sat nav!

July 12th, 2017

What do you want?

When I sit down with clients here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, the very first question that I ask them is “What do you want?”. Pretty simple question, right? Well it seems it, but the majority of people I ask answer it in a different manner. They don’t tell me what they DO want to do, they tell me what they DON’T want to do.

  • “I don’t want to eat chocolate
  • “I don’t want to keep feeling anxious
  • “I want to stop avoiding things I find scary or daunting
  • “I don’t want to use alcohol as a coping mechanism anymore”
  • “I don’t want to feel depressed

Now in each of the above cases every outcome has been stated in a negative manner. It states how they don’t want to be or what they don’t want to do, which doesn’t unfortunately give us any indication as to what they actually want to be like or they want to do instead. Consider the other positive outcomes below as a comparison.

  • “I want to eat healthily”
  • “I want to feel calm”
  • “I want make the most of every possibility that presents itself”
  • “I simply want to use alcohol socially and handle things that bother me with a positive approach”
  • “I want to feel happy”

The unconscious mind is really like a sat nav in some respects. If you want to arrive at a specific destination, you have to input that specific destination. If you input where you don’t want to go, guess what’s going to happen? That’s right, it’ll take you to the exact place that you don’t want to go!

So the next time that you decide to make a change in your life, just take a second to work out what it is that you actually want. If you start out by identifying what it is that you don’t want, don’t panic or feel bad. Just think about what that would allow you to do and you’ll soon start to be on the right path to your goals!

If you would like to find out how we can help you identify your goals and achieve them within only 2-3 sessions, please don’t hesitate to call us on 01223 720120, or contact us here and we’d be glad to help.

Speak soon!

Luke

The Hypno-band topic came up again…..

June 14th, 2017

Effective weight loss vs The Hypnoband

A few weeks ago I had a phone call from a potential client wanting to book sessions for our hypnoband approach for weight loss. The obviously hadn’t ready my blog post here! They were completely surprised when I said I didn’t perform hypnoband sessions, and that personally I didn’t like it or believe in its effectiveness. Please don’t take this to mean that no-one will ever change as a result of it, as some people will. However, the percentage of positive LONG TERM results would be minimal in my opinion.

I’m not going to go over it all again as you can read my thoughts in the blog post above, but here are a few summarised points:

  • Is the client going to BELIEVE they have just had surgery with no scar…. NO
  • Are you letting go go emotional eating… NO
  • Does having a real gastric band fitted guarantee losing weight…. NO
  • Will a gastric band change my desire to exercise…NO
  • Is it any good at all…. NO (obviously only my opinion)

After raising just a few of these points to the enquirer, they quickly booked in for an initial consultation to discuss my approach to weight loss that means no conscious dieting, no real effort and a simple approach to achieve long term results. As it turned out, she had actually worked in clinics offering the real gastric band and had been against them but believed her original thoughts to be the only way to change!

After the first session, one week later, she had lost 4lbs and not had to actively go out and do anything differently. She had naturally found herself saying no to certain foods in certain situations, and had even been motivated to actually join a gym and have her induction already under her belt!

After the second session, only 2 weeks after starting , she was 7 lbs down. The most shocking thing to there was how easy it had been. She imagined having to eradicate every type of food she liked, count calories and try and lump foods into certain point schemes to work out what she could eat! how much grief and effort would that have been!

So what’s stopping you from easily losing weight? Why not contact me here, or call me on 01223 720 120 find out more about being the slimmer you that so far you’ve have only imagined and dreamed of being!

Luke

Cambridge Hypnotherapy

Performance Anxiety

June 8th, 2017

Performance Anxiety and how it affects us.

Where do we start with performance anxiety! This area is so big and covers so many different issues. Here is a list of a few:

  • Exam performance
  • Sporting performance
  • Interview performance
  • Speaking to groups
  • Artistic performance (singing, acting etc)
  • ?
  • ?
  • ?

The questions marks are for your issue that I haven’t mentioned. In each and every one of the examples above the only thing stopping that person from performing the way that they want to is their perception of what that event means. We could take a mock exam paper home and sit quietly at a table and no doubt answer questions calmly and get the score we deserve. However when put in an exam situation, a great big hall where you are not allowed to talk, surrounded by 50 other nervous individuals we start to read too much into it. There is now also something riding on our results. They mean something compared to a mock exam where it doesn’t matter if we fail… but you didn’t… you passed it… why should this be any different?

Or then there is sporting events. I have worked with professional sportsmen and women from footballers to golfers to snooker players. One of the snooker players I worked with was an amateur who had already achieved one of the highest breaks ever at 151 (possible as his opponent had fouled). He had all the talent and skill and was winning his amateur competitions with ease. However when it came to the tournaments where he could win his pro card it was a different scenario. He was rarely winning and actually losing to people he’d previously never lost to. When asked why, he said he kept thinking about how if he lost then his chance would be gone, where as there was nothing riding on his amateur matches apart from some small prize money.

These really highlight how our levels of anxiety can actually be working against the very thing it is trying to achieve. Anxiety is there to protect us and to help us perform our best, and to a degree this works. The issue is when this anxiety goes above the optimal level and our performance starts to drop. See the graph below to demonstrate this.

Think about your life. What would you do better, more efficiently and more enjoyably if you were remained relaxed and calm? We can help you. Anxiety is the number one thing we work with at Cambridge Hypnotherapy. Over 50% of our clients are here for some sort of anxiety issue. In only 2-3 sessions you too can be free just like they now are.

Contact us now on 01223 720 120 to find out more, or click here to send us an email.

I look forward to hearing from you,

Luke